mentalrape Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 For women who are very sexual, how important is receiving oral sex to you? personally, I am a HUGE fan of receiving oral sex, but never had much practice giving. I've always kinda told myself to save that for the girl I fall in love with. Is that selfish? I mean if the girl I date is ready to give me oral pleasure, but never initiates the reverse.. should I feel bad? Whats going on in her head there? Or do a lot of women prefer getting turned on by giving head, and then receive all the pleasure and more that they need once a man thrusts inside of them? Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 My thought has always been if you want to receive you better give as well. Link to comment
amtjrtcet Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 For women who are very sexual, how important is receiving oral sex to you? personally, I am a HUGE fan of receiving oral sex, but never had much practice giving. I've always kinda told myself to save that for the girl I fall in love with. Is that selfish? I mean if the girl I date is ready to give me oral pleasure, but never initiates the reverse.. should I feel bad? Whats going on in her head there? Or do a lot of women prefer getting turned on by giving head, and then receive all the pleasure and more that they need once a man thrusts inside of them? I'm a sexual female and I love receiving but I also love giving....yes, you're being selfish if you expect to get and not give.... sorry Link to comment
hers Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Yes it is selfish to "save" it for a girl you love but expect a girl you don't love to give you head. Seems to be a respect issue. You respect a girl you love and therefore will please her that way, but you disrespect girls who will give you head. Why do you feel the need to "save" it for a girl you love? Personally if a guy expected me to give him head but didn't return the favor, the relationship wouldn't last long. Link to comment
mentalrape Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 i dont know, i think it is because if i am merely dating a girl, i dont REALLY know where she goes, what/who she does... so Im not sure if other guys are in that area or not.. and also ive had a couple bad experiences when i went down, and then there was a really bad smell.. and it gets awkward... Link to comment
anggrace Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 If she doesn't "initiate the reverse", as you put it, that doesn't mean she doesn't want it. Why are you not in to giving? If it really is because your saving it for someone special, that would tell me you find oral to be a special thing shared between two people who love eachother. But since anyone can give it to you, Im not buying that. I enjoy oral...a lot. Giving and recieving, but only if the guy really wants to do it. When I sense it's out of obligation, I am very turned off. Luckily I found and married someone who loves to do it. Link to comment
hers Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 So you don't want to go down a girl b/c you don't know where she's been. Can't they say the same about you? Link to comment
amtjrtcet Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 So you don't want to go down a girl b/c you don't know where she's been. Can't they say the same about you? thank you! That's what I was thinking.....The op isn't the only guy I know that feels this way though. Which I find astonishing....kinda like if the guy's been with a lot of women he's a pimp, but if the girls been with alot of men she's a wh*re....i just don't get it. Link to comment
waveseer Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 I'd like to answer your question but I don't think I can talk to someone who's username offends me the way yours does. Link to comment
hers Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Again I think it boils down to respect. A girl wants oral from you. You don't know where she's been so you won't go down on her. You don't respect her enough to think she's not some skank and therefore want oral from her. Total chauvanist attitude I think. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 My thought has always been if you want to receive you better give as well. Exactly....& yes its selfish especially if she likes oral. Link to comment
Lamour detruit Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 I am a guy,and even I agree with these posts. It is pretty ridiculous and lame that you let her give you head, but that you're waiting to give her oral because you don't know where shes been or what she has done. Man up and pleasure her the way she deserves, you make it sound like she doesn't deserve it,but you do..or that there is some funky stuff going on down there. Hell, when you are attracted to someone, personally there is little more satisfying than going down on her and pleasing her the way she does to you. Clearly giving a woman oral helps makes it more enjoyable for the both of you when you do have sex, since she will be craving it even more. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Give to get... Also, what if you find your girl and fall in love - and turns out you're LOUSY at oral sex because you've never bothered to do it before? Going to be a bit of a downer! I find men who are very sexual are kind of into all aspects of sex, from my limited experience, lol. It's very very sexy when a man knows what he's doing and how to make you melt with pleasure... Link to comment
hayky3126 Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 I guess im weird but i HATE to give!! Most guys that i date say that its cool that i dont cuz i rock in bed but i honestly cant stand doing it. I will do it but i would rather not!! Uh, quick note though: I LOVE to receive!! Link to comment
agatha Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 you get it, you give it. unless the other party passes, or it has been talked through, it's basic bed etiquette. I love both (giving and receiving), but he will be required to do me first, at least the first couple of times. since I like to abide by reciprocity laws, it's just to make sure each will get their own (unfortunately most men get tired too fast, and some end up 'forgetting' to return the favor...) Link to comment
Brownstone322 Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 ... i think it is because if i am merely dating a girl, i dont REALLY know where she goes, what/who she does... so Im not sure if other guys are in that area or not ... Dude ... really ... do you have any idea how bad that makes you sound? Link to comment
dragon lady Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Oral sex is important to me in a relationship. If he doesn't want to give, then there is something big missing in our sex life. Fortunately, I've never dated a guy who wasn't happy to reciprocate. The best are the ones who can cum from just going down on me. I hope I find another like that... Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 i dont know, i think it is because if i am merely dating a girl, i dont REALLY know where she goes, what/who she does... so Im not sure if other guys are in that area or not.. Bear in mind you're not protecting yourself a lot if she gives you oral, if she's been with a lot of guys. Because if they had something on their penis that you could contract (which she has contracted), she could have it in her mouth by having given them head. And I'd say if you go down on her, your penis at least is safer than if she goes down on you. Having said that, I understand your complaint about the "bad experiences" with the smell, but that's certainly not the case with most women, since the healthy natural lubrication has no smell. You just happened to be with a couple of women that may have had something going on. I'm a completely orally fixated person, both receiving and giving. I can't imagine having a sex life without both, and in fact these rate higher in importance to me than actual penetration by far. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 I gladly give it without receiving. For the most part, I always end up with a yeast infection...and its just not high up on the pleasureable scale for me. The orgasm and pleasure is much better in other ways...but I don't hold that against him. It's a personal choice I've made to not receive it, but it plays no part in giving. I don't think I should deprive him of pleasure because of a personal preference I have on the issue. But with that being said, if both parties enjoy receiving, I think its selfish to not give and expect to be received. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 i dont know, i think it is because if i am merely dating a girl, i dont REALLY know where she goes, what/who she does... so Im not sure if other guys are in that area or not.. and also ive had a couple bad experiences when i went down, and then there was a really bad smell.. and it gets awkward... This made me laugh because her mouth was probably many of places if not more then her vagina, yet Im sure you dont have a problem kissing them or them giving your oral. Maybe the night before she was giving oral with that mouth to someone else....eck. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 i dont know, i think it is because if i am merely dating a girl, i dont REALLY know where she goes, what/who she does... so Im not sure if other guys are in that area or not.. and also ive had a couple bad experiences when i went down, and then there was a really bad smell.. and it gets awkward... If you are worried about that maybe you should be abstaining from any sexual relations with a female you aren't serious about if it is really that big of a deal to you about where she has been and who she has done. Link to comment
jengh Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 Considering I can't orgasm from sex alone, yes--if I'm giving a guy head it'd be nice if he'd reciprocate the gesture. If you're that concerned about "where she's been", perhaps you shouldn't be engaging in any kind of sexual activity with her. Link to comment
shera Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 Considering I can't orgasm from sex alone, yes--if I'm giving a guy head it'd be nice if he'd reciprocate the gesture. If you're that concerned about "where she's been", perhaps you shouldn't be engaging in any kind of sexual activity with her. agreed! As a girl who doesn't get off from sex oral is essential and I will agree with the rest...you don't know where her vagina has been? lame...maybe if you are that worried about it...you shouldn't be having sex with her in the first place...and i am sure your penis has been in just as many questionable places so why should she give to you?!?! It's all so backwards and just reaks of being selfish and lazy! Link to comment
Unknown1607307972 Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 I believe to get oral you ahve to be prepared to give it. If a guy was fussy about that then he's not getting any blow jobs either (I also can't get off from sex, I need fingering/oral) Link to comment
isthisused Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 I guess Ill be the bad guy here. I don’t think anyone should do any sexual act that they are not comfortable with. Having said that I think if you want to please your partner, and you should want to please your partner you should carefully consider what your hang-ups might be and try to get over them. Women should realize that if you have a time during a lovemaking session that you don’t enjoy, there is nothing to stop the next part from being enjoyable. A man doing something he doesn’t enjoy during a lovemaking session can have a softening effect, after which its like playing pool with a piece of rope. Link to comment
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