HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 My fiance is away at a training - he's very good at calling me- so i have no right to complain. but last night when we hung up he said- i'll call you in the morning around 7. so i get up ..get stuff i need to get done so i can be ready for his phone call... and 7 comes and goes... so at 8 i call him... he is with other people who are at the training and they are getting ready to go to breakfast.. he talks to me like he always does- says he misses me ... and then like a big baby i say "how come you didn't call me this morning?" he says .."oh baby .. i'm sorry .. i forgot - i did say i would call you at 7.. i'm sorry" and now today-i keep having this stupid stupid thought that he is happier without me and just forgot about me. i know i'm being a big baby- i'm just sad because i look forward to those morning calls since he is gone- mornings were always are thing- start the day together having coffee ..ect.. and i really miss that ..i thought he did too- i don't want to make a big deal about it to him..but im just sad that he forgot to call me. =( any encouraging advice ...or just a shared experience.. would be appreciated. Link to comment
EQD Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 awww. its okay, sometimes people just get caught up in stuff i'm sure he meant nothing by it. **hugs** Link to comment
BrunetteBarbie Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 !! Some ppl would kill to have a bf like yours! Hes very sweet and considerate, dont take it bad that he forgot to call....happens to everyone. Im sure you 2 have a lotttt of mornings ahead of you, so, just forget about this time. And dont dare to think hes not happy with you!!! he gave you no reason to think that! Just chill =) Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 He's away at training, he is busy. It isn't the end of the world that he forgot to call you. He did apologize, there isn't any reason to be mad or upset about it. This won't be the last time something like this happens. I forget to call my guy back all of the time because I get busy and don't think about it until later. It isn't because i'm happier without talking to him, things just come up. Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 i know .. thats why i'm bugging him with this and posting here instead of asking him to explain... its just that i'm sitting here missing him- carrying my cell phone around like its another arm... and he forgot to call.. ya know? Link to comment
EQD Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 well thats when you just have to get busy too. if your life revolves around him its going to be severely disappointing when these little things happen. thats why people go crazy when they dont have enough to do outside of their relationships. i've been prone to this... Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 well thats when you just have to get busy too. if your life revolves around him its going to be severely disappointing when these little things happen. thats why people go crazy when they dont have enough to do outside of their relationships. i've been prone to this... Very good advice. I think we have all been guilty of doing this at some point.. There have been times where I have missed my guy so much that my cell has been attached to me and I'd find myself checking it every few minutes to make sure the ringer was turned up and I had perfect signal. It gets taxing after awhile so you need to find something to do to keep you busy and not worrying about him always calling. Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 i know- but sometimes i get to the point where i feel like i don't want to do anything but talk to him... i know i'm being a big baby about- and i'm just missing him Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 If you are getting like you want to do nothing but talk to him you really need to find other things to occupy your time. Letting him consume your life and time in that way isn't healthy for a relationship. It's normal to miss someone and want to talk to them and be with them but it isn't normal to allow it to consume all of your time. You need to take time and get out and do something that focuses on yourself and nothing else. Link to comment
Divine_Malice Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 Gosh I hate to be the evil cloud, but my ex fiance was just like that and pretty soon when I got sad about him not calling he starting blameing me saying we didn't have to talk all the time. It began small like sorry I forgot baby too I have better things to do so just watch out. Don't let him get away with it all. he broke off our wedding a week before. He was in the coast guard. LDR relationship while at bootcamp and working so I feel your pain. I am sure all is well but let him know you look forward to his calls so he knows how it hurts you. But keep yourself busy, dont let him consume you, I was guilty of that. Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted April 2, 2009 Author Share Posted April 2, 2009 It's ok- he likes to talk to me and say hi ..and i don't give him a hard time if he doesn't call- i just felt sad because i really wanted to talk to him in the AM. like i said .. i am used to him being around in the morning- sharing the bathroom, having coffee together- waking me up ... so the mornings are the hardest. Link to comment
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