In-The-Zone Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 Okay there's this lad in one of my classes who I have a huge crush on and he stares at me a lot, and I tend to look then look away because i find eye contact uncomfortable. So anyway we've never spoken, and he looks at me a lot and i was walking home and he was accross the road, and he kept looking back casually then turning around but there was a lot of people kind of behind me and slightly down the road so I don't know, but he was defo looking at me because they weren't exactly near me, no one was. The thing is he has on his bebo that he loves girls and he has pictures of girls in bikinis. Is he straight bi gay in denial confused? what? and im not out so no one knows im gay Link to comment
blueblueblue Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 this is really weird because i just refreshed the page to start a new thread and the top thread was this one, and it was the exact same thing i was going to post - like same content and everything - minus the bebo page bit except the guy im thinking of is quite sporty, but then so am i, so i dunno but yeah anyone what do stares mean? Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted March 31, 2009 Author Share Posted March 31, 2009 So is my guy we're so different though he has a lot of friends and I don't really in school Link to comment
blueblueblue Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 do you want to add my msn? rocktop@hotmail.co.uk because ive been waiting for someone with the same situation as me lol and its easier to speak about there? Link to comment
BrunetteBarbie Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 Are you sure that he looks at YOU?..... Somtimes I think uhh why does that guy/girl stare at me so much, but then they rly dont.. Maybe he stares cuz he noticed you stare, lol or something else. Not always its a sign of attraction. Are there other hints that could imply that he is homosexual ? I wouldnt rely too much in the girls thing on his profile, I think many guys (esp in around your age ) dont want to be open about it, then they pretend to love girls....Ive got a very very close friend who is gay, and he used to talk about girls//post girl pics//act like he was rly attracted to them.... I think the best that u can do... is gathering all your courage, and go up to him, start talking to him, not in a flirty way, just casually. He is in 1 of your classes, so it shouldnt be too much hard.... You can ask him about something in the subject, etc. Im sure you can come up with something. Just show confidence, try to dont be shy and nervous..I know its hard. But you can do it Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 I have no idea what he is just from what you are telling us here, I dont think anyone here can tell u 100%. He could be looking at you or turning back to look at you cause he is wondering why you are looking at him? Or is looking at someone else? Who knows...impossible to tell. Why dont you try talking to him as a friend and see what he's about? Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted March 31, 2009 Author Share Posted March 31, 2009 But he looks more than I look first... I often catch him staring but I look away. and I've never spoken to him I wouldn't know what to say plus he's always with his friends Link to comment
Boughs Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 He sounds like he is straight and you are over thinking this. I sometimes look at gay guys because what they wear or what they are doing/how they are acting is typically abnormal to how I am. Sometimes its good to get a broad range of understanding and perhaps he is just trying to understand you. Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted March 31, 2009 Author Share Posted March 31, 2009 But he doesnt know I'm gay and we were uniforms Link to comment
greywolf Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 OP: oh wow, i was so confused at first because I thought you were a girl! hahah I honestly can't tell if he's gay just because of that. Have you tried talking to him? Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted March 31, 2009 Author Share Posted March 31, 2009 OP: oh wow, i was so confused at first because I thought you were a girl! hahah I honestly can't tell if he's gay just because of that. Have you tried talking to him? No i cant i dont know what to say and Id be all embarrassed and hes always standing with someone and id feel stupid just randomly saying something to him after all this time u know!?! Link to comment
KIDD Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Most men may not admit this but even straight guys stare at another man they may find attractive. Doesn't necessarily mean he's gay. Like I'm gay but sometimes I maybe intrigued by how a woman may look and I may stare based on that. Doesn't mean I want to date her or physically want her.. Link to comment
Unusual U Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Well, he's in at least one of your classes right? You could ask him about homework, or ask him for help, or something. At least the ice is broken (or cracked. . . .). But, please, be careful, I mean, don't set yourself up for disapointment by getting your hopes up, thinking he's just closeted and scared of coming out when he could very possibly be straight. But, is there anything else that might indicate that he is gay (or bi)? Link to comment
pianoguy Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 You'll never know unless you talk to him. Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 Well, he's in at least one of your classes right? You could ask him about homework, or ask him for help, or something. At least the ice is broken (or cracked. . . .). But, please, be careful, I mean, don't set yourself up for disapointment by getting your hopes up, thinking he's just closeted and scared of coming out when he could very possibly be straight. But, is there anything else that might indicate that he is gay (or bi)? Thats what I think I'm doing, but I can't help it, it's like an obsession or something it's weird. I've nothing else really but I want to believe it so i'm trying to believe it i think, although there is a picture I seen of him kissing another guy at a party and they're both drunk, but the guy that was kissing him kisses a lot of boys for the laugh even though he's straight Link to comment
Paul Waul Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 What your doing right now won't get you anywhere. I know that talking to people can be difficult, but why not add him as a friend on facebook or something? I know that sounds weird, but when I look at my FB friends page (which I don't do much), I don't know 30% of the people at all, and of the rest, I'm only close friends with about half, so this could be as good a way as any to talk to him. If all else fails, just say hi to him every time you walk past him in the hall. And, if you notice him staring at you, give him a smile and don't look away. Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted April 12, 2009 Author Share Posted April 12, 2009 Thanks for all your help guys but im goin to forget bout him and it all im making a mountain out of not even a molehill and im just being naive ive nothing to base what i think on and im just making myself believe it when its obviously not true so screw him im moving on thanks anyway everybody Link to comment
folie_a_deux Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 dont move on yet.. why can't u guys just be friends, honestly, if u can talk to him and get to know him more, without confusing honest/innocent friendship with relationship, it would be awesome wouldn't it. you don't have to focus on him, just make simple that you want to be friends. like a casual "hey" or "hey, im in ur class for [w/e]" . while ur doing this, u could continue searching for ur "ideal" guy. its important that u don't think about him too much, cos then u could unconsciously show that you have feelings for him. Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted April 14, 2009 Author Share Posted April 14, 2009 dont move on yet.. why can't u guys just be friends, honestly, if u can talk to him and get to know him more, without confusing honest/innocent friendship with relationship, it would be awesome wouldn't it. you don't have to focus on him, just make simple that you want to be friends. like a casual "hey" or "hey, im in ur class for [w/e]" . while ur doing this, u could continue searching for ur "ideal" guy. its important that u don't think about him too much, cos then u could unconsciously show that you have feelings for him. I cant It's extremely hard he's always with his friends and it's not like I have anything to say to him I can't think of anything to say thats good enough reason for possibly embarrassing myself you know? and it's been like over a year and we've never spoken I can't randomly saying hey you know? Plus we are so different I don't see it happening tbh Link to comment
folie_a_deux Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 ooo!! how about. hey, u dropped ur pen in class Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted April 14, 2009 Author Share Posted April 14, 2009 ooo!! how about. hey, u dropped ur pen in class Ha ha ye just accidently drop it to the back of the room where he sits oops could you pick up my pen i accidently dropped it accross the whole room ha ha that would be a good idea if i sat near him Link to comment
folie_a_deux Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 no dude, as in, sit behind him or next to him one lesson, and then after school, just go talk to him and be like "i think u dropped ur pen" and give him a random pen u found or something, and if he says, oh thats not mine, just be like, oh my bad, and continue walking with him Link to comment
In-The-Zone Posted April 15, 2009 Author Share Posted April 15, 2009 no dude, as in, sit behind him or next to him one lesson, and then after school, just go talk to him and be like "i think u dropped ur pen" and give him a random pen u found or something, and if he says, oh thats not mine, just be like, oh my bad, and continue walking with him Thats the problem with assigned seats Link to comment
chiefoptimizer Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 Thats the problem with assigned seats awwwww that sucks! Can't you just walk up to him before lunch or something, and say "hey could you help me with some please?" Link to comment
folie_a_deux Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 wow, that really sucks... hrmmm... maybe at the cafeteria or something? just be like, i think this fell out of ur pocket at lunch hehehe, i srsly hope u guys get to talk... Link to comment
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