Dubb Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I was at the mall earlier at a book store and ran into 2 friends. We began talking and this cute blond walked right by me into the mall. I told my friend I would be right back, I have to go talk to her. I am still new to approaching women during the day btw. In my eyes anyway lol. She walked fast and managed to make it into a clothing store for women. I said screw it and went in. I like to list the convo b/c it's more helpful in a few ways. This is semi accurate. I can't remember it all. Me-Hey, I just noticed you walk by me in the book store and If I didn't come over here and talk you, I would kick myself for the rest of the day. You're incredibly cute. Her-Awww, that's so nice. Me- I'm Dubb btw. I shook her hand but man I forgot her name lol. I was a little nervous Me-So, what book did you buy? Anything good? Her-A book about relationships, I just got out of one. Me-That's awesome, you can never stop learning and improving. Me-Hey, my friends 30th bday is next week and I have no idea what to get her. Her- She gave me a few ideas. Me- You're so my new gift consultant. Her- laughing, thank you Me-Hey, I'm running late and need to go but give me your number and I will call you. Her-Honestly, I am really not ready to date at all Me-That's cool, it was still really nice meeting you Her- Thank you and I need to tell you, what you just did, made my day. You really did. I didn't get her number but I did learn a few things. I am sure I could of done it differently or pushed for her number anyway. It's all calibration. I felt really good walking out of there. When I got back to my friend and his GF, I told them what happen. My friend said he would never dream about doing what I did. Even tho I didn't get the number, I have that much more experience in meeting women. Hope this helped someone. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 hey - good job!!! even if she didn't respond with her number, well, if she was telling the truth about being fresh out of a relationship, then she really isn't ready to be out there dating. in any case, i am very proud of you!!! i bet you brightened her day a lot! Link to comment
COtuner Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I think you did great, and I bet she feels pretty good about it too. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 That was some good flirting!! Doesn't seem like you're new to this at all. I'd love it if a guy approached me like that. Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 Hah, she had the book with her. I forget the name. She was definitely just out of a LTR. I don't really consider myself shy but in my opinion it's harder to meet women like this than at a bar. Because most guys can't bring themselves to get past their anxiety. I am just hoping the shy guys in this section get a little inspiration. It's not easy for anyone. I approach women all the time but I was still nervous. To be honest tho, I actually enjoy the feeling lol. Link to comment
laisla Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 that's awesome what you did. Link to comment
Roberto34 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Hah, she had the book with her. I forget the name. She was definitely just out of a LTR. I don't really consider myself shy but in my opinion it's harder to meet women like this than at a bar. Because most guys can't bring themselves to get past their anxiety. I am just hoping the shy guys in this section get a little inspiration. It's not easy for anyone. I approach women all the time but I was still nervous. To be honest tho, I actually enjoy the feeling lol. Dubb...You're the MAN! Only thing, when she said that she wasn't looking to date, you could've countered with something along the lines of: "Whoa, who said anything about dating?? I'm merely trying to gain a friend here...Wow, you move rather fast ;P" Just something like that to make her laugh and possibly say "OK..." Link to comment
laisla Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Dubb...You're the MAN! Only thing, when she said that she wasn't looking to date, you could've countered with something along the lines of: "Whoa, who said anything about dating?? I'm merely trying to gain a friend here...Wow, you move rather fast ;P" Just something like that to make her laugh and possibly say "OK..." ^ that's annoying Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 Actually Roberto is on to something with that. I probably would of used something like that if not for seeing her book. Sometimes women toss a little test. Why? I have no idea. I guess they want to know the guy is strong enough to be with her. She was fresh out of a LTR. I have no doubts. Hell, she might even find these boards=p Link to comment
Roberto34 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 ^ that's annoying So aren't women who can't take playful conversation... Link to comment
laisla Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 So aren't women who can't take playful conversation... guys say that a lot of times and it is confusing yet obvious at the same time, that he is attracted and wants a date but switches the convo over to say that he just wants to be friends....like don't waste my time is what i think... Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 guys say that a lot of times and it is confusing yet obvious at the same time' date=' that he is attracted and wants a date but switches the convo over to say that he just wants to be friends....like don't waste my time is what i think...[/quote'] yeah, that is annoying. like guys i meet on dating sites like eharmony and link removed who say they are only looking for friends. well, no, obviously, you are looking for a date! otherwise, you would be on link removed if you were only looking for friendship. Link to comment
Roberto34 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 guys say that a lot of times and it is confusing yet obvious at the same time' date=' that he is attracted and wants a date but switches the convo over to say that he just wants to be friends....like don't waste my time is what i think...[/quote'] Hence the word playful, and the wink/smile when you say it. It's to lighten up the awkwardness...Once again, "playfulness." Link to comment
laisla Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Hence the word playful, and the wink/smile when you say it. It's to lighten up the awkwardness...Once again, "playfulness." *shrugs* if it works for you... Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 guys say that a lot of times and it is confusing yet obvious at the same time' date=' that he is attracted and wants a date but switches the convo over to say that he just wants to be friends....like don't waste my time is what i think...[/quote'] Good point. I agree with my situation, there was no need for me to push any further with her. It would of made it uncomfortable. Now, if she was being flirtatious and sending me some signals that indicated interest than doing what Roberto said would of made sense. By doing what I did, it left me vulnerable. In a good way. I'm sure she appreciated how genuine it was. There is only so much you can do to get a number in my particular situation. It made my day, making hers. This girl is probably hurt inside and I told her in a very unapologetic way that she had something that made me want to put myself out there and talk to her. I bet she told her friend=p Link to comment
laisla Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Good point. I agree with my situation, there was no need for me to push any further with her. It would of made it uncomfortable. Now, if she was being flirtatious and sending me some signals that indicated interest than doing what Roberto said would of made sense. By doing what I did, it left me vulnerable. In a good way. I'm sure she appreciated how genuine it was. There is only so much you can do to get a number in my particular situation. It made my day, making hers. This girl is probably hurt inside and I told her in a very unapologetic way that she had something that made me want to put myself out there and talk to her. I bet she told her friend=p a similar thing happened to me several months ago and i created a thread about it here on ENA so small, nice things like that do stay in our minds, even if we said no. we still appreciate it. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Hence the word playful, and the wink/smile when you say it. It's to lighten up the awkwardness...Once again, "playfulness." yes, playful. i went on 2 dates with a guy i met on link removed. on the second date, we met for drinks, and he spent a lot of time complaining about his ex-fiance and griping about all that. then at some point, he says, 'do you think this is a date?' i said, 'yes, we met on eharmony, it is a dating website.' he said, 'oh - i don't consider this a date, i consider it making a new friend.' i pointed out again that he's not looking for male friends on link removed, right? yeah. he asked to spend the night on my couch because he was feeling a bit drunk (he only had 2 drinks). i said no. he asked me out a few times after that, but i ignored him. sheesh. Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 ehh.. too many lines. i'm guessing you learn this from one of those pick up artists. personally don't dig. Link to comment
somethngwrng Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 One of my friends got approached by a stranger on the street who said nothing other than "... Hello, beautiful.". She told everyone about it. It definitely made her day, and yeah, she's gorgeous (and taken). Putting yourself out there is hard (with social anxiety, etc), but there's nothing really so terrible that can happen to you. Great job on overcoming that. I'd love to do that kind of thing, but I really don't have the balls... heh Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 ehh.. too many lines. i'm guessing you learn this from one of those pick up artists. personally don't dig. Hey, that's all good.=) Not every girl is the same. From the feedback so far in this thread it sounds like the method I used will get a positive response most times. They are not so much lines. I meant every word. She was incredibly cute and If I didn't talk to her I would of wondered what if. I could of simply just asked her for advice on a gift for my friend but I decided to go in letting her know my intentions. Just curious but how would you want a guy to approach you? Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 One of my friends got approached by a stranger on the street who said nothing other than "... Hello, beautiful.". She told everyone about it. It definitely made her day, and yeah, she's gorgeous (and taken). Putting yourself out there is hard (with social anxiety, etc), but there's nothing really so terrible that can happen to you. Great job on overcoming that. I'd love to do that kind of thing, but I really don't have the balls... heh Hey man, it's possible. Take small steps. For now just go out and talk to 5 strangers. Have some small talk with them. They don't have to even be women. Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Hey, that's all good.=) Not every girl is the same. From the feedback so far in this thread it sounds like the method I used will get a positive response most times. They are not so much lines. I meant every word. She was incredibly cute and If I didn't talk to her I would of wondered what if. I could of simply just asked her for advice on a gift for my friend but I decided to go in letting her know my intentions. Just curious but how would you want a guy to approach you? well your attitude is good... so keep at it. regardless, it's always flattering for a girl to be approached. i'd rather it be more natural. i'm sure you meant everything... but what you said sounds like lines "oh youre so cute i'd kick myself if i didn't come over to say hi"... common line. coming up with a problem and then asking her to help... it just sounds so formulated, you know? i'd rather random small talk. i'm not the type of girl to date guys i just met randomly though... so maybe i'm not one to be giving advices. Link to comment
Dubb Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 well your attitude is good... so keep at it. regardless, it's always flattering for a girl to be approached. i'd rather it be more natural. i'm sure you meant everything... but what you said sounds like lines "oh youre so cute i'd kick myself if i didn't come over to say hi"... common line. coming up with a problem and then asking her to help... it just sounds so formulated, you know? i'd rather random small talk. i'm not the type of girl to date guys i just met randomly though... so maybe i'm not one to be giving advices. haha, you never know. One day you might have a guy saying the same words. A big smile and confident body language can go a long way. Link to comment
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