Iconate Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Quick background: My good friend(girl) and I wanted to go to a new club we haven't been to before. She brought her friend whos really...I guess you could say prude. We ended up kissing, (she never did this with a random before) I asked her for her phone number/email. She was a bit nervous, and I felt bad so I apologized. Its been about a month, and since then, we talk...EVERY day, texting, msning, you name it. Shes the unique girl who's morals actually match my own, and I think thats how we really connected. Truth be told, shes a busy girl and has been unavailable a lot of the time due to health complications and school work. Because of this I have only hung out with her three times. 1. That night 2. At school once 3. This past friday, Some friends her and I went to get dinner. I am a really really friendly guy...a nice guy...And I have lost a lot of girls in the past too "Your such a good friend, I could never date you" excuse. So just last night, we were having some playful chat, when the opportunity presented itself for me to ask her out to dinner, get some real one-on-one time. She said yes. Great.... I guess my question is... Is it too early to "ask her out"? Every day that passes we just talk more and more, and since exams are coming up, for the both of us, I really only see the next time us casually hanging out being AFTER exams...which finish at the end of april. I don't wanna lose any chance that I might have with this girl. But at the same time I don't wanna blow it.Also...lets say for whatever reason its is too early to ask her out... How should I end the night off. We will probably end up walking, we live close to many restaurants. If you have any advice or stories id love to hear them, thank you very much in advance. Link to comment
top bloke Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Its not too eatly ..she already said yes...enjoy your date and move as close as she is confortable with you..... Watch her..enjoy and gently move forward..hope this is helpfull Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I met my boyfriend drinking with some friends one night and he asked me on a date the next day...after maybe an hour of talking to him. So yeah, go for it! Actually, the sooner you do it the more it shows her how interested you are. Link to comment
rivercitystein Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I thought you already asked her out? She said yes so it must not have been to early. Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Or wait, are you talking about asking her to be your girlfriend? Link to comment
rivercitystein Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 If it's to be your girlfriend, I'd say yes it's a little early. Link to comment
Iconate Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 Or wait, are you talking about asking her to be your girlfriend? Yeah thats what I mean. So...maybe end the date by seeing if she wants to go out again? EDIT: I know there is no specific NUMBER/RULE or anything of that nature, but what would be a good number of dates before anything? Also, pinkrobot, and anyone else, Id be interested in hearing HOW exactly your boyfriend/girlfriend asked you out (like, to become your bf/gf) Link to comment
bmc Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Yeah thats what I mean. So...maybe end the date by seeing if she wants to go out again? EDIT: I know there is no specific NUMBER/RULE or anything of that nature, but what would be a good number of dates before anything? Also, pinkrobot, and anyone else, Id be interested in hearing HOW exactly your boyfriend/girlfriend asked you out (like, to become your bf/gf) my general rule with girls is i wait three to four times of hanging out one on one before asking them to be my "girlfriend." also i know its lame and cheezy but how i usually do it is say "well there is something ive been meaning to ask you." and they know what you mean and usually smile and be like yeah, then you just say "will you go out with me?" hope that helps and good luck with the lady friend Link to comment
rivercitystein Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I would suggest giving it a few dates so you can get a feel for each other. If after a few dates everything seems to be going well, then just ask her if she would like to make the relationship exclusive. Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Yeah thats what I mean. So...maybe end the date by seeing if she wants to go out again? EDIT: I know there is no specific NUMBER/RULE or anything of that nature, but what would be a good number of dates before anything? Also, pinkrobot, and anyone else, Id be interested in hearing HOW exactly your boyfriend/girlfriend asked you out (like, to become your bf/gf) I'd still wait a few more dates. There's not a certain rule or number or anything, but you want to both have the chance to determine if it's something worth committing to. It sounds like you have your mind made up, but you don't want her to feel rushed to do the same. So take her out a few more times, and if you still feel chemistry, definitely ask her. My current boyfriend and I dated for 3 weeks and then one night he just said, "So, I'm not sure so I figured I'd ask...are you my girlfriend?" Which was his cute, shy way of asking me TO be his girlfriend, haha. You can just keep that part simple and just be very straightforward. Don't worry about that at all. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I'd hang with her one on one a little more because bringing up the bf/gf thing. Link to comment
Iconate Posted March 31, 2009 Author Share Posted March 31, 2009 Thats great guys, yeah I mean, we have some inside joke stuff which I know she will find cute, which Im gunna use to ask her out. But, I have a feeling shes kind of expecting it. LOL maybe things are different in my town /Canada haha. But we don't really have a "dating" stage, its more or less [hang outs/getting to know the person --> significant other] no real in between. Waiting too long here ends up in a friendship. She was in the hospital today, so I went and visited her, we talked until visitors had to leave. I think I am giving the right impression. Unfortunately Im gunna have to move our dinner to another day EDIT : I do agree on the more one on one times. I think our dinner will just be dinner and hang out w/e. And pending that, Ill think about the next one. But here is a follow up question What are some great one-on-one activities I don't do this much, and from friends they urge me to stay away from movies (theatres) because its not really one on one, cause you aren't talking. I covered the dinner part haha. Either casual things, or really creative things that your S/O's have done in the past, Id love to hear about Link to comment
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