chocolates Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Im in a bit of a bind with this, See I want to slice my sim card in half so i CANNOT call or text him again.. But what about other people on my phone???, not to mention a new guy who gave me his number... And its not enough to simply delete his number- I can hear a number once and remember it, so that doesnt work. And msn- what if he decides he wants to contact me? and ive deleted him? what if he does come to his senses and wants to text me? and I have sliced my sim card in half? I just feel trapped. I guess i have to believe he wont contact me again, amybe that will make it easier. help! Link to comment
UCLAMike Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Let's start with, what do you want? Link to comment
chocolates Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 at the moment right this minute i want him Link to comment
HouseKitten Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Unless you're willing to cut yourself off from other contacts by cutting up your sim, you might just have to exercise as much willpower as you can and NOT re-enter his number into your phone even if you can remember it. Also - if he wants to contact you that badly, not being able to get hold of you on msn should not put him right off. I don't know all of your story but presumably you know him in real life so he could always.... speak to you? Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Im in a bit of a bind with this, See I want to slice my sim card in half so i CANNOT call or text him again.. But what about other people on my phone???, not to mention a new guy who gave me his number... And its not enough to simply delete his number- I can hear a number once and remember it, so that doesnt work. And msn- what if he decides he wants to contact me? and ive deleted him? what if he does come to his senses and wants to text me? and I have sliced my sim card in half? I just feel trapped. I guess i have to believe he wont contact me again, amybe that will make it easier. help! I think you know that contacting him (or him contacting you) isn't good for you. In fact, I KNOW you know that. Why not delete his number (without looking at it), write down all the other numbers in your phone -- friends, etc. -- THEN slice the sim card in half? Personally, I wouldn't waste a perfectly good sim card, but if you feel you don't have the willpower to not call him or text him, then you really should. As for MSN, YES, you SHOULD delete him. It sounds, after his last contact with you (the texts about the woman calling you), that you won't be hearing from him anyway. He's annoyed, for sure. Ask yourself this: What have you ever gotten out of being in contact with this guy, other than casual sex? When are you going to be truly honest with yourself and realize that this guy has nothing to offer you? I know I sound like a broken record, but...I wish you would value yourself more. I know it's difficult. Most of us have some sort of issues with self-esteem to some extent, but this guy has given you NOTHING, and you've wasted a tremendous amount of time on him already. How much more time are you willing to give up to get nothing in return? Link to comment
Pixiedoc Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 at the moment right this minute i want him Hang on, isn't this the man who cheated on you multiple times and from whom you want more than casual, but treats you like....well, casual?!! You need to delete him from your MIND, not just your phone, and NEVER go back there (or any other similar relationship) again. Link to comment
ratfreak Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 i would just delete from your phone and msn. if he really wants to get in touch with you, he will find a way... by email, phone or in person. i don't know how your relationship and breakup were, but no matter what you try - if he wants to walk away, he will and no matter what you do will change his mind. Link to comment
supp11 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Also - if he wants to contact you that badly, not being able to get hold of you on msn should not put him right off. I disagree with this general intuition. Think about it the other way...the other person could be hearing the exact same thing. Now, if BOTH people are hearing "if your ex wants to talk to you that bad, nothing will stop them", then both people might take that advice to heart, and neither person would call the other. I just think that this specific advice isnt good advice and I see/hear it being given all the time. Link to comment
waveseer Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I disagree with this general intuition. Think about it the other way...the other person could be hearing the exact same thing. Now, if BOTH people are hearing "if your ex wants to talk to you that bad, nothing will stop them", then both people might take that advice to heart, and neither person would call the other. I just think that this specific advice isnt good advice and I see/hear it being given all the time. I agree with this opinion. Link to comment
nem69 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 What if you never told them you were going NC? I probably should have said something to her. Now what? Link to comment
rivercitystein Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 i would think that telling your ex that your going NC really could defeat the point in some instances. Link to comment
nem69 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Well it's that game of chess is suppose. Guessing what the others move will be, what their thoughts are. Link to comment
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