SL88 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I posted a thread just over a week ago, the original post is called "Doesn't make any sense....he's gone so cold" (It won't let me post the link for some reason) Since I posted, I've spoken to my ex a few times, he said he isn't angry with me and never was and he also said 'this isn't as easy for me as you seem to think, I still love you to bits and I'm far from happy with just being friends' (he was the one who told me he wanted to be friends). What is he trying to say? He said to me previously that the problems in our relationship would never change and that it was best in the long run that we broke up. But since then he seems to be going back on what he said before. Anyone have an opinion or advice on this? Thanks Link to comment
Casey13 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 He is unsure of what he wants. His logic tells him to leave you while his heart is telling him to stay. Link to comment
Vince99 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 big mistake wanting to remain friends. for either of you. Link to comment
SL88 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 We're not staying friends, I made that clear on the phone the other night. I said that for as long as we stay friends and stay in contact I will always have the hope that he will change his mind and I'll never move on if that's the case. So I told him not to contact me and I won't contact him, the problem is once I said all of this he started back tracking and saying how hard he was finding it all. But I don't want to make a fool of myself anymore, I spent over a week crying and begging for another chance and I just lost all of my dignity. He's still got some of my stuff and I've asked him so many times to take it round to my dad's house as I don't want to have to see him but every time he makes an excuse as to why he hasn't taken it round. Do you think he is just keeping hold of it so he has got an excuse for me to keep contacting him or what? I'm so confused!! Link to comment
Xetra Dax Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 this guy is bad news get your stuff yourself and leave him, he`s never going to make an effort for you, he is just full of lies and exuses. Dont believe him anymore thats the biggest mistake you can make when you are listening to a perpetual liar. Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 My ex told me he was always around when i needed him, 3days later after texting him twice he told me to delete his number!! Try no contact, it will be very hard tho. Link to comment
Vince99 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 it's kind of dangerous telling someone just to "try no contact". no contact is about way more than just not talking to the other person. there are rules and certain things you need to be doing while in nc, and if you don't, you'll just end up right back where you were, if not worse. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 This is the guy who hit you, right? What are you doing? Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 So what do you suggest then? Link to comment
catfeeder Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 So what do you suggest then? Pull your microscope back from him, and start researching why men hit women. (Hint: it's not about the women.) It will teach you what you need to know. Hopefully, your luck in this 'loss' will become apparent to you, and gone will be your care to figure him out. Another avenue might be to work with a therapist who can help you discover why you're glossing over the most pivotal factor of this relationship. The man hit you. In your corner. Link to comment
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