Ms.Lady Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I want my boyfriend back!! I want him to be the same person I met.. I want him to call me everyday, I just miss this man so much. I know he doesn't want me anymore and I could do better but he was the only person that gave me the time of the day. I think I miss more of the fact that someone actually gave a damn about me more than actually him in itself. I just wish I could find someone that could replace my boyfriend. Someone that calls me day in and day out. Someone I could love and return the love back.. Now it's emptiness, basically what I felt before my boyfriend but even worst to an extent... Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I'm sorry you feel this way. Was this your first boyfriend? Link to comment
Ms.Lady Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 I'm sorry you feel this way. Was this your first boyfriend? No I've dated guys in the past... Like 2007.. But this was the first guy in a long time I was really feeling & then he just went numb and I decided to end things. However it seems like we're still friends. He calls every now and then to check up on me. Which is not good for my sanity because apart of me is hoping he will change his mind and wake up but I doubt it. Link to comment
RobD70 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 You sound co-dependent. Read "I Need Your Love-Is That True" by Byron Katie. Also ignore his calls, you don't gain anything from talking to him except to boost his ego and slow your healing. He won't change his mind until you stand up for yourself and reject him. Link to comment
ljoy74 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I'm sorry you're feeling this way to. It's such a hard place to be in! Ignore the calls like RobD70 suggested. I thought I was healing after my ex of 4 years and I broke up but then he'd call or we'd see each other and it took me back to square one. This is the reason so many people on here advocate for no contact (me being one of them) until you are TRULY strong enough to handle the feelings. Something I am still learning is that in order to have a productive relationship you must first be able to stand on your own 2 feet and love yourself. If you need someone to call and define what it is to be loved then chances are you're not even truly ready for a real relationship. Take plenty of time to yourself and reflect on every thing. He's gone and once you let him go you can prepare to find and be with someone who will be by your side for forever. Link to comment
Xetra Dax Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 He didnt go numb without a reason, did you give him enough attention in return? Link to comment
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