lonelyandblue Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 I fell in love unexpectedly during a crazy time in my life. This guy is terrific and he paid me a lot of attention. He texted me all the time came over all the time to see me, introduced me to his friends and family. He even mentioned things we can do in the future. From all that I can tell, this means he was digging me, no? He even was sensitive to finding out the things I like or not and never pushed me. Then I got off track somehow. Maybe the stress in my life caused it, I just left an abusive relationship and I am in counseling trying to figure out myself but I said some mean things that in the end I didn't mean and it put a lot of distance in between us as you might imagine. He still talks to me via text, however a lot less. It used to be from the time he got home from work to the time he went to bed (10;30). Since, I have realized how I miss his company and regret completely my actions. Would you ever give someone a second chance? What actions might I take to rectify the situation??? My current course of action includes giving him space and not repeating the same mistakes along with the counseling I am attending weekly. Link to comment
forever1130 Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Just tell him you're sorry for the things you said/did and even though you cant take them back you are still sorry about it. I would probably give someone a second chance if I got an honest apology from them Link to comment
EQD Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 communication is paramount. talk to him. open. honest. communication. we cant answer for him Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Have you tried to explain this to him..... Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 What exactly did you say or do? It depends how much damage you really caused.... Link to comment
paul084 Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Yes I would definitely give you a second chance. If you explain the situation to him as you have done so here, I would think he would understand. I'm currently waiting on a girl who just got out of an abusive relationship. So I know these things take time to get over. I don't think your chances are ruined since he still chooses to have some communications with you. So I'm sure if you had an open honest talk with him he would understand. From what you say he seems to be the type of person who would. Link to comment
Up and Down Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 I fell in love unexpectedly during a crazy time in my life. This guy is terrific and he paid me a lot of attention. He texted me all the time came over all the time to see me, introduced me to his friends and family. He even mentioned things we can do in the future. From all that I can tell, this means he was digging me, no? Yes he digs you. I just left an abusive relationship and I am in counseling trying to figure out myself Explain this, do you mean you were in an abusive relationship prior to meeting this person or that you were abusive to him? If the latter what exactly did you do. Link to comment
lonelyandblue Posted March 27, 2009 Author Share Posted March 27, 2009 Ok, Thanks, I will try. I have apologized for some things I said, but not all which I really need to do. Oh, what I said, I am so ashamed to admit, but I got jealous after starting something myself, I did got drunk and said that I ended up loving stupid guys and he said like me and I said what? because I didn't think he would want to know or think that I love him even though I do (of course the infatuation kind), then I said something about not wanting to be his * * * * * which was neither implied by anything he said or way he treated me and was so out of line, egads (this is what I was trying to figure out? In the end conclusion is this is how I have come to view self at times, again, not his fault or any doing)! Cringe... Link to comment
madmarten Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 It really depends on what you said. You can just apologize and be honest with him and say you want try things with him again. Just read what you said. IDK, what you said comes as not only very insulting, but very immature as well. It is a great slap in the face who may have been beginning to develop feelings for you as well. Did he ever give you reason to think like that, that you were his *****? Humm, I little secret on guys, one of things we want more than anything, even if we never say a thing, is a little appreciation. Link to comment
TENNFOLD1974 Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Just talk to the man....but be very sincere. Link to comment
ellandroader Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Honesty is the best policy. I was on the end of something very similar to this (PM me if you want to know anymore) and you need to apologise and level with him if you want things to go somewhere. Good Luck! Link to comment
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