roger jones Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Hi, i have been married to my wife for four years We have problems in the intimate side of our relationship, though i do love my wife...i just can't be bother'd with sex that often.I know this deply troubles my wife, and we have been to see a sex therapist, but to be honest she was a waste of time. The other day when my wife had gone to work and i had come home from my night shift she had left the computer on and she was on using messenger on a user name i had never seen her use, when i looked it was a list of a lot of guys, when i looked @ her mail i was horrified to see e-mails from many men....and e-mails from a adult dating site, to be honest i didn't open them to see the contents....but i can imagine what things they contained and what things they talk about online. I really trusted my wife before this, now all the trust has gone..she says she is so sorry and can i forgive her. For me the main problem is as she ever met any of these guys in person, she denies that she has, but she would wouldn't she........any advice? Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Well, I can understand that your wife is frustrated and unhappy. I would suggest that you check whether there is a medical reason why you have lost interest in sex, and then I would go back to the sex therapist and also invest in marriage counselling as well. I imagine your wife is seeking out affection and sexual attention -it's hard to be in a relationship when that is absent, it's more like room mates otherwise. Link to comment
top bloke Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Roger..get some help. We have to please our women...if we dont theyre only human. Get medical,psychiatric help....sex is pretty important in a loving relationship. As a wife she should have not tried looking elsewhere but at least given you an idea about how bad things were getting....she had no business going out of the marriage as a married woman. If she felt that bad she should leave. Link to comment
sugabug001 Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 my husband and I have been having the same type of issues where he no longer seems interested in sex with me..I go online and chat with all kinds of men and have been for a long time..I do not meet with any of them nor would I..The reason I talk to them is because sometimes I need male conversation and attention and if your man at home can not or will not give it then someone else will..I see nothing wrong in it at all.. Link to comment
veda999 Posted May 10, 2009 Share Posted May 10, 2009 Roger..get some help. We have to please our women...if we dont theyre only human. Get medical,psychiatric help....sex is pretty important in a loving relationship. As a wife she should have not tried looking elsewhere but at least given you an idea about how bad things were getting....she had no business going out of the marriage as a married woman. If she felt that bad she should leave. Uh, hello, why should she leave? He is the one that can't perform, HE SHOULD LEAVE and stop torturing her. Why should she have to suffer the loss of her home when it's him that can't put out?? Link to comment
miss_squish Posted May 10, 2009 Share Posted May 10, 2009 Just curious but is there a reason why you "can't be bothered with sex that often"? Link to comment
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