Day (-1) of No Contact

[fifregister]

Breakup has been done. I am terribly hurt, upset, and numb. I'm back here for the 4th time on this forum. When am I going to find the one?

[baseball8]

Did you get dumped or did you do the dumping?

 

If this is the 4th time you've been on here, you should be comfortable knowing what you gotta do.

[amiami19]

You are going to find "The One" when you get off the computer and go out with your girlfriends and live your life!!!

 

Love

Ami

[secretness87]

You need to be happy with yourself and healed from the break-up first before you begin finding The One

[fifregister]

I got dumped. We've been in a funk for awhile. He suggested a break, then took it back. I then suggested that we break up, he talked me out of it. Then he broke up with me a few months later, today.

 

It was just draining for both of us. It's a long distance relationship of 3,000 miles..

 

I'm miserable and exhausted. I don't want to hurt anymore.

[baseball8]

No doubt break-ups are tough confusing. My ex gave me the speech "I need space", then as we talked, she said "you act like I'm breaking up with you"

 

Wow, 3000 miles is very long distance. Not sure of the details.

 

My only suggestion to you is just relax. I'm not sure what you're looking for. I wouldn't answer any calls, emails, or texts from the ex, and I'm sure you wont be contacting him.

 

I made the mistake of hitting the panic button, lol. wish I had found this site sooner.

 

In today's society, is there such thing as the one? It seems like there are few people left who will actually put the effort into a relationship anymore.

[fifregister]

24 hours of silence and incredible heartache. I cleaned the apartment, slept with the help of a glass of wine, woke up, dropped friends off at the airport, went shopping, went to the gym. Just got back to my apartment. I've lived alone for so long, but tonight it seems so solitary and sad.

 

I broke down. I thought heartache would get easier with time. It doesn't.

 

3,000 miles is far. But he's in town now, and has never been further away.

[baseball8]

It's good that you had a busy day. The first day is always the toughest.

 

I think if I were to ever go through a break-up again, I'd get rid of my phone for a few weeks I'd book a vacation somewhere nice the next day and get away from everything.

 

It's good that you go to the gym. Take care of yourself, and think of all the good things you have going for you. Set some goals you want to accomplish and stay busy trying to achieve them.

 

My goal is to pay my house off before my 35th Birthday. I have 2 1/2 years to do it. It will help me stay focused and not spend so much cash if I get into another relationship.