just broke up with first love - is this a valid reason? Should we try again?

[moldova]

I broke up with my first true love a few days ago, and now all i can think about is getting back with him. We were together for 2 years. I'm miserable, he's miserable. We've broken up several times since we've been together, usually over petty things. But the petty things add up and i get to breaking points. I can barely keep it together. I feel so bad for hurting him. Everyone says i did the right thing and even though we love each other, we just are not the right ones. I've had him by my side to help me with hard times, and now i'm going through this alone.

 

i had a whole story up about what went wrong but i just didnt want it up anymore.

[HeyIdunno]

yea, it doesnt sound good. you only think he's your only true love because, i think, after 2 years, youre just USED to him being around. f him. if he doesnt want to live with you, then let him be...and move on. he's not worth it.

[Aliens]

I went through a similar experience a few months back, and even made a post about it on this forum. The best advice I can give is to give it time. Breakups hurt, but getting back together is only a temporary fix. It probably sounds like a long time, but try to give yourself at least 3 to 4 months to recover.

 

After breaking up with my girlfriend I was a mess. Now, almost 5 months later, I still miss her from time to time, but I'm able to look at the situation rationally. Remember that you broke up for a reason. Even if the breakup was an overreaction, there was a problem and the time apart can help you understand it for when you try again in the future.