Sleeping with a guy to settle the score

[Angelzdust]

Hey guys, for anyone who has read my last post:

 

 

 

here’s part two:

 

On the weekend I went out to a friend’s birthday at this club, who was a mutual friend of my (former) best friend.

My ex- best friend and I had some awkward conversation but after a while it seemed to get easier and I thought even if she hasn’t forgiven me at least she isn’t ignoring me anymore.

 

So there was this really cute guy there that I’ve known for a few weeks who I know likes me and I flirt with pretty much whenever we’re together.

My ex- best friend knows this, and the whole night she would not leave him alone, dirty- dancing with him, putting his hand on her butt and grossing the whole place out by almost having sex right there on the dance floor. (Seriously, I saw a whole breast and a flash of upskirt during that display)

 

She made an absolute fool of herself in front of everybody, I know in an effort to ‘get even’ with me, and I didn’t even really have any plans on getting with the guy in the first place.

He even sent me a text the next day telling me what a terrible lay she was, and how he had wanted me that night but she wouldn’t leave him alone. (I told him not to text me again if that’s how he’s going to speak about my friends)

Also, another mutual friend told me my ex- best friend had told her that she was ‘sorry she had slept with ‘my man’ but at least now I knew how it felt.’

 

She was my best friend, and I wish we could just go back to being friends again, but will this happen every time? If she has decided we’re even now that’s fine with me, but what if there is a guy I actually like and she tries this?

 

What do you guys think?

[akazie]

I just went back and read your other thread. Personally, I wouldn't want to have a friendship with this girl. Friendships are about trust and you now don't have that with her.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

First of all, nobody twisted this guy's arm to carry on with this girl if he likes you...so this guy is just as much at fault and also made a fool of himself. The whole situation is very sad and it boggles the mind that none of you have any control over your sexuality. Given what happened with you and her now ex and what happened with her and this guy on the dance floor I really think that all of you need to take stock of your behaviours and start letting the brain rule the genitals..because letting the genitals rule has caused so much pain and embarrassment for everyone.

[Angelzdust]

First of all, nobody twisted this guy's arm to carry on with this girl if he likes you...so this guy is just as much at fault and also made a fool of himself.

 

Oh I don't care about him....... I wasn't all that interested in him anyway, I just know she put on a big show in front of me to try to get back at me.

 

Because I have apologized time and again for all that happened, and taken responsibility for my role in it all, I was just a bit hurt that she would try to purposely upset me.

 

What I'm saying is will this just be the end of it and can we move on and work up to being friends again, or should I just let a great friendship slip away because I don't know if she'll be satisfied she's hurt me enough to call it even?

 

P.S. Yeah I know we're young and do some crazy stuff, but apart from a few bad experiences like this, it is a lot of fun.

[Yanet]

So there was this really cute guy there that I’ve known for a few weeks who I know likes me and I flirt with pretty much whenever we’re together.

My ex- best friend knows this, and the whole night she would not leave him alone, dirty- dancing with him, putting his hand on her butt and grossing the whole place out by almost having sex right there on the dance floor. (Seriously, I saw a whole breast and a flash of upskirt during that display)

 

She made an absolute fool of herself in front of everybody, I know in an effort to ‘get even’ with me, and I didn’t even really have any plans on getting with the guy in the first place.

 

Ohhh, you tease. You know he likes you but you don't care about him yet you still lead him on?

[BeStrongBeHappy]

Her attempts to get back at you have more to do with her trying to regain her own self esteem and sense of control, but doing it in a way that his very harmful to herself.

 

I would let her calm down a bit, then talk to her about how both of you are getting way out there in terms of confusing this kind of promiscuous one upmanship and sordid encounters rather than recognizing what sex should really be about... you should enjoying it for the physical and emotional pleasure and bonding not just drunken forays into embarassing club antics and threesomes that aren't even thought out before they happen.

 

Tell her you think you both need to get a grip and agree that perhaps you need to cut back on the drinking and clubbing if it is leading to behavior that has caused the rupture of a good friendship.

 

Just time to grow up a bit and realize that sexual promiscuity in all forms has a very serious downside, and you've both been burned by it now and it's wrecking a good friendship when it shouldn't.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Oh I don't care about him....... I wasn't all that interested in him anyway, I just know she put on a big show in front of me to try to get back at me.

 

Because I have apologized time and again for all that happened, and taken responsibility for my role in it all, I was just a bit hurt that she would try to purposely upset me.

 

What I'm saying is will this just be the end of it and can we move on and work up to being friends again, or should I just let a great friendship slip away because I don't know if she'll be satisfied she's hurt me enough to call it even?

 

P.S. Yeah I know we're young and do some crazy stuff, but apart from a few bad experiences like this, it is a lot of fun.

 

I am not sure why you would want to continue to be friends with her. There just seems to be too much betrayal and one-upmanship going on.

[Angelzdust]

Ohhh, you tease. You know he likes you but you don't care about him yet you still lead him on?

 

He likes me in a 'I really want to sleep with you' kind of way. Hey, if it was love would he have taken my best friend home? He gets a lot of girls, but still flirts with me, it's all in fun.

 

He's a major flirt and a great- looking guy, and I probably would have slept with him sooner or later. Hell, maybe I still will.