MetalHed Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 You see a guy at some random store like a bookstore and then you just make yourself very available for him to approach you. You make sure to stay in his sight even if he moves. Perhaps you come back later for a round 2 if he didn't do anything 1st time.... How hot does he have to be (maybe a 1-10 scale)? Compared to you? My friend gets this stuff happening to him all the time and it's usually by very attractive women, but that make sense (they have confidence he'll approach). It just blows my mind sometimes and was seeing what you girls think because I never knew he was considered attractive until I saw this with my own eyes consistently. I don't have a pic of him, but based on the above, what would you say? Funny thing is, A LOT of guys pull his leg a lot about the fact that he's really skinny (which he is) so he only has me and some ok male friends. I now know why (they are jealous), but he can easily win over all the attention when girls are around so it kinda sucks for me. Anyways, thanks for any input. Link to comment
stella74 Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 Yes, I do this. It's not so much the physical attractiveness, it's what he's reading! Obviously, I have to feel some level of physical attraction to him or I'm not going to try to make myself approachable. I'm very interested in an intellectual connection, so if I see someone reading something that looks interesting or shows we have common interests that's a big plus. Link to comment
waveseer Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 I am rarely in a bookstore without my kids, so no, I'm not there to play hide and seek in the book racks with strange men. lol Link to comment
laisla Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 You see a guy at some random store like a bookstore and then you just make yourself very available for him to approach you. You make sure to stay in his sight even if he moves. Perhaps you come back later for a round 2 if he didn't do anything 1st time.... i've never followed a guy around a bookstore but i have tried to make eye contact. haven't done any round 2s... How hot does he have to be (maybe a 1-10 scale)? Compared to you? i don't "pursue" guys just cause they look good. i see goodlooking guys everywhere but the only ones that i've pursued were the ones that were different and interesting to me. someone that relates to my personal taste. he could be a 5 or a 6 "lookswise" but he could look very interesting to me and i might try to catch his eye. otherwise, if we're going solely on looks i'd say a 7 or so. maybe your friend is just very approachable Link to comment
arcadefire Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 I think if a woman is REALLY interested, she would try to get him to glance and she would smile. Link to comment
stella74 Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 I think if a woman is REALLY interested, she would try to get him to glance and she would smile. I think this is true for most single women who are open to being approached in a neighborhood book store or library, where it's likely you know people in common. It doesn't work to follow some complete stranger around the place, unless you're really desperate! I used to get approached by men in book stores and libraries a lot, not so much any more. I'd simply catch his eye if he was in a section that interested me and then I'd move closer to subtly see what he was reading. I'd linger if I was interested and browse the books next to him. I usually didn't have to do anything other than stand a few feet away, glance and smile. Looking at someone in the eyes and smiling can lead to a feeling of connection or to disinterest. I think I have a friendly face and attitude, so men have found it easy to approach me. I think now that I'm older and more experienced, I'm less friendly in public places. The point is, though, that MetalHed's friend is probably aware of the women around him, able to read signals and able to give off a friendly vibe. That probably has more to do with a guy's success than his looks. Link to comment
COtuner Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 I've never kept passing by. I have lingered. Usually the guy would be about the same as me in "hotness" (going off what I have been told I am). If he was a 10, I would assume he was taken already and ignore him. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 how can anybody say your friend is attractive based on what you wrote? attraction is subjective anyways. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 LOL, how does your friend know they are intentionally making themselves available to be approached by him? Maybe they are just looking at books. I don't follow guys around waiting for them to talk to me Link to comment
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