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I know I post on here a lot about my problems and insecurities and I hope it's not annoying but it really helps me to feel a lot better. I think I just got rejected today by a girl I felt I actually had a connection with and who actually might be interested in me. One year ago today my girlfriend of three years dumped me. Since then, I have been rejected by every single girl I have gone after. I have not had so much as a hand-hold or a cheek-kiss.

 

I know lots of people post about how much trouble they're having and undoubtedly some have it worse than me but I'm so bummed out right now I don't care and just felt like posting this.

 

How do you keep up spirits when all you get are rejection after rejection after rejection?

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This is what this site is for so don't apologize!

 

You wont always get rejected, it just takes time. Cliche as it sounds it happens when you're not looking. I know it must knock yourself esteem but try to be more thick skinned about it and move on. There's one thing that attracts girls and that's confidence!

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You wont always get rejected, it just takes time. Cliche as it sounds it happens when you're not looking.

 

I know, it's just hard because I feel that as the male I have to do all the initial work. So in that sense I feel like it's all in my hands, and thus far my hands are not handling it very well.

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why do you let a complete stranger get to you? absolutely no reason to be down no yourself.

 

I know, in general I have fairly good self-esteem. It's just a little off-putting when it is so many girls decidedly not interested in me. I think I have a great personality but I'm insecure about my physical appearance. I was overweight for much of my adolescence as a result of anxiety medication wreaking havoc with my metabolism, and gained a lot of weight the first two years of college due to severe depression and basically binge eating. In the first half of 2008 I lost 64 pounds, and I now weigh 190 (I'm 6'1"). That's technically a healthy weight in terms of BMI, I still just feel a little heavy. Granted, I'm a big guy, broad shoulders and big frame, but my weight has always made me insecure.

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I know, it's just hard because I feel that as the male I have to do all the initial work. So in that sense I feel like it's all in my hands, and thus far my hands are not handling it very well.

 

A lot of women ask men out these days. Go with the flow, do you need a girlfriend tomorrow?! Enjoy being single, it's less stressful.

 

Show the girls how confident you are, be cute and funny. Just don't act desperate, clingy or needy. That is a huge turn off and we can see it a mile away.

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I know I post on here a lot about my problems and insecurities and I hope it's not annoying but it really helps me to feel a lot better. I think I just got rejected today by a girl I felt I actually had a connection with and who actually might be interested in me. One year ago today my girlfriend of three years dumped me. Since then, I have been rejected by every single girl I have gone after. I have not had so much as a hand-hold or a cheek-kiss.

 

I know lots of people post about how much trouble they're having and undoubtedly some have it worse than me but I'm so bummed out right now I don't care and just felt like posting this.

 

How do you keep up spirits when all you get are rejection after rejection after rejection?

 

Well you may not be having success now, but you've clearly had it in the past.

 

Some of us, as said in other posts, have never had a GF. Like myself.

 

Consider yourself somewhat lucky.

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Maybe you introduced yourself as a friend? She never considered dating you? She's a * * * * * ? Who knows. It doesn't matter unless you're going to have to see her again. Just talk with more girls, but don't go around with the mindset that you need to find a girlfriend.

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