sadiegxoxo Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 I have been with my bf for almost two years now. He is twenty four and I will be tweny in a couple of months. I new when I started dating him he smoked and sold pott. I am very against drugs. He has been addicted to pott since he was twelve years old. I no addictions are hard. My parents were drug addicts. I no you cannot go through it alone. My bf is now on probation for three years for something he should not have done with one of his so called "friends". But he still hangs out with his drug buddies and just sold his pain medication he had gotton for a car accident to 50 dollars and is using that money to buy ecstasy from ultrafest...a big dj thing in Miami. He says he would do anything for really good clean drugs...and that means our relationship is in jepordy because i do NOT approve. I feel he does not act 24...he just started college, he lives with his mother, he barely has a job...and I have stood by him through everything trying to help him see his future and get him on the right path but now i think its been a waste of my time and love...and i dont no what to do. He says he wants a respectful girlfriend who will let him do what he wants to do and a girl who wont get on his case for stupid things, and a girl who wont talk back to him. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place....please...advice would be greatly appreciated... Link to comment
Bambino Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 He's not worth your time. Until he comes clean and shows some maturity, your relationship will go nowhere. Dump him and move on. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 It's not being disrespectful to speak up against his drug use. He just wants someone to walk over so he doesn't have to deal with the fact that what he's doing is wrong and that he needs help. Unfortunately, this guy will just drag you down and he won't change. I think you need to move on. Link to comment
sadiegxoxo Posted March 24, 2009 Author Share Posted March 24, 2009 I no its just time invested...but my heart still hurts and i wont no what to do..this is my first serious relationship and he is my first love. i dont want to be in so much pain...of losing him. I'm afraid and i just wish he could see that. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 But why invest even more time in a relationship that is not growing in a positive direction? You're wishing that he is someone that he is not. Drugs are his life right now. They will always come first as long as they are around. And due to the fact that he gets upset when you bring it up that it bothers you, it doesn't sound like they are going anywhere anytime soon. You have to decide to put yourself first so you don't waste any more of your time. Link to comment
sadiegxoxo Posted March 24, 2009 Author Share Posted March 24, 2009 I understand what your saying. Everyone around me knowing the situation, including my parents are saying the same thing...but how do I make MYSELF realize this. I no you and everyone else is right...but i dont no how to bring myself to the realization. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 You can't really force it, you just have to get to that point where you don't want to put up with it anymore. Maybe it would help if you made a list of the things you think are important in a relationship and what your dealbreakers are. I made kind of a pros and cons list about my ex when I knew I shouldn't be in the relationship but I was having trouble leaving. It helped to see it on paper that it was not in my best interest to stay. Link to comment
waveseer Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 You have no right to tell him how to live, and he has no right to tell you how to be either. If his behavior is unacceptable to you, leave him. Link to comment
sadiegxoxo Posted March 26, 2009 Author Share Posted March 26, 2009 We actually sat down and talked for HOURS the night before last...i told him we couldnt be together anymore and he begged me to stay. he said he would work on himself and us and to just give him time. So i said ok. but i told him what i was not going to put up wiht anymore Well last night i called him after work and he was on his way to sell his perscription pain killers...i didnt specify that that was something i did not approve off. I think you all are right...i think its time for me to move on...:sad: Link to comment
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