joiboi Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 So i have been in LDR for 2 months now. My GF got a new job and moved 800 miles away. So something that was big in both of our relationship was the sex. We would both equally initiated sex. We used to average about 5 to 6 times a week while in school. I went to visit her for spring break and something i realized immidiately is that she didnt want the sex as much as wanted to. She also never initiated the sex when we did do it. She also told me she just didnt crave it as she used to. I feel like I pushed her to have sex. I just feel worried that something is wrong. I also feel like I dont attract her as much as i used to. She said it might be the Birth control pills shes on but i dont believe her. This is b/c she has been on the pill since september and nothing was wrong back then. I just feel this is all of a sudden. Should i be suspecting somthing? She still says she loves me. I dont know....Im scared and confused. I just dont feel as wanted/attractive to her.......:sad: Link to comment
shikashika Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 who knows abot birth control pills... i've probably been on about 5 different kinds, and none of them decreased my sex drive. Maybe it did for her. having said that... if it DOES decrease her sex drive, she should do something about it. how much have you talked to her about this? Link to comment
NowandZen Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 In an LDR, sometimes it takes longer to re establish the emotional connection needed for love making. Take it slow, build up and see how that works. Link to comment
Rose21 Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 Me and my boyfriend are in a semi LDR. We see eachother every 2 weeks, and have long breaks together of seeing eachother every day. The first time I saw him since the distance had started was after 5 weeks, I felt no decrease in my yearnings for him in the least. I couldn't get enough of sex with him. Infact, being away from him has made me kind of a sex addict lol thinking about it all the time. When we saw eachother every week, the average was 3-5. I guess maybe she is still adjusting. Maybe she realizes that sex isn't everything in your relationship, or MAYBE she's just really stressed about her new job? Link to comment
joiboi Posted March 23, 2009 Author Share Posted March 23, 2009 who knows abot birth control pills... i've probably been on about 5 different kinds, and none of them decreased my sex drive. Maybe it did for her. having said that... if it DOES decrease her sex drive, she should do something about it. how much have you talked to her about this? we just started talking about it yesterday. I just brought it up and she didnt seem too responsive. She just said its not like college anymore where i wanted it often. She does seems stressed about her new job though cuz its not something she wanted to do. She also moved to a state where she does not know anyone, which is another factor that may add to her stress. She also told me yesterday she wants to get off the pill cuz shes been on it for a while now. She feels its not good for her natural hormone levels...which means back to condoms... Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 The pill can kill a girl's sex drive! Trust me, been there done that..will never get back on it. It's like your body being unable to feel sexual urges. Your body just doesn't respond to being touched..and most of the time I had to force myself physically and convince myself that yes I did want to have sex [because I wanted to be close and intimate..] but the desire to do it..just didn't happen. The mind would tell me yes, my body would say no. I know many females who have issues with sex drive while on the pill. Do a simple google search and you'll get flooded with info. Link to comment
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