VTR-RC51 Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 This is my FIRST time EVER being involved in an LDR. I never thought I would go this route...there are so many uncertainties. I find it particularly difficult, as I do not know what to expect. We had a first meeting planned for this past week. Unfortunately, due to circumstances out of our control, it was canceled. During the week in which we were supposed to meet, she was preoccupied with family issues, and I was left with little to no contact which made it even worse for me as I was already very disappointed that our first meet would not occur. People who I have talked to, have advised that we are doomed, as usually when an opportunity to meet is missed...the LDR usually fails and ends. I am already becoming doubtful of what is to come of us. I do have deep feelings for her, and care for her a lot, but it would seem that our next availability to meet would not be for another 3 months. My hopes were for us to meet this time, and solidify our relationship and make future plans. I don't know what to do now....Do you all feel that when an opportunity like this is missed, the LDR will not last? How long would you allow an LDR to go on without meeting in person? I've always been accustomed to seeing my gf multiple times a week...in this case, it's been 2 months already and another 3 in front of us before we can even meet for the first time! We talk, chat, cam often...but there are always those small little quirks and idiosyncrasies that you cannot capture through the web. These are the things that I had hoped to see when in person..and now everything is in doubt... Link to comment
Snoopy24 Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 Well no offense, but I don't think you can have a "relationship" with someone without meeting them first. Many people do meet online, and THEN form relationships, but without even meeting yet, I can't really see how you can be in a relationship. People often are not what they perceive online, and imo I think any romantic relationship needs some sort of chemistry. ..and you can't tell if you have that until you meet in person. But that being sad, if you really care for this person, and want to try and work it out, and they feel the same, then I guess time will tell. If you can't meet for 3 months..then there isn't much you can do except wait it out and see what happens then. Hope it works out. Link to comment
VTR-RC51 Posted March 23, 2009 Author Share Posted March 23, 2009 Have you met her ever? No I have not... Link to comment
VTR-RC51 Posted March 23, 2009 Author Share Posted March 23, 2009 Well no offense, but I don't think you can have a "relationship" with someone without meeting them first. Many people do meet online, and THEN form relationships, but without even meeting yet, I can't really see how you can be in a relationship. People often are not what they perceive online, and imo I think any romantic relationship needs some sort of chemistry. ..and you can't tell if you have that until you meet in person. But that being sad, if you really care for this person, and want to try and work it out, and they feel the same, then I guess time will tell. If you can't meet for 3 months..then there isn't much you can do except wait it out and see what happens then. Hope it works out. While I agree to a certain extent...we have cam'd with each other almost daily. It's not just cam and chatting...we cam, while doing everyday things, cleaning, cooking. This is what I have read and heard goes a long way in an LDR. Though I can see where you are coming from, this is exactly why I'm so disappointed that our first scheduled meet fell through.... Link to comment
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