ScarletOhara Posted March 22, 2009 Share Posted March 22, 2009 Help! My boyfriend of 3 years and I have recently broke up because he says that he needs to focus on himself right now. I think this is that it's not a bad idea to take time to ourselves, but do want to get back together eventually. Now we are stuck living together for two months (in separate rooms), and I was wondering how I give him and myself space (small living quarters) but maintain it friendly enough without him starting to think of me as just a "buddy"? I was planning on staying with friends a lot, but my dog has fallen ill which will mean that I will pretty much have to be chained to the house when not at work. Plus, is there any chance of us ever getting back together after we get our own places? We've both had a rough few years and moved in together because we relocated (not the right reason). I really want to build myself up and win him back. Has anyone been able to do this? Or do I just have to accept that it's over? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 It is too bad that you have to live with him. I think the best thing is for you both to be polite with each other but stay out of each other's way as much as possible. Don't have dinner with him, don't watch TV with him, don't have long conversations with him. Just act like roommates who have their own lives. Do not sleep with him, do not touch him at all, no cuddles, no hugs, nothing. Keep your physical and emotional distance and work towards moving out as soon as possible. Link to comment
Tired Tiger Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 Well, I'm in this very situation myself. It is too bad that you have to live with him. I think the best thing is for you both to be polite with each other but stay out of each other's way as much as possible. Don't have dinner with him, don't watch TV with him, don't have long conversations with him. Just act like roommates who have their own lives. Do not sleep with him, do not touch him at all, no cuddles, no hugs, nothing. Keep your physical and emotional distance and work towards moving out as soon as possible. Huh. Apparently I've broken every one of these rules. In spades. Of course, nothing has been solved. I still have to go. The only thing I can say of any help is to NOT bring up 'relationship' stuff (bargaining, pleading, etc.). That's a fast slippery slope into drama around the house. Link to comment
ScarletOhara Posted March 24, 2009 Author Share Posted March 24, 2009 That is very good advice, for sure. And that is exactly the way I plan to play it. The only problem is: how am I going to win him back after having to live like this for two months?!?! And how am I going to keep my cool? It's going to kill me Link to comment
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