Why is this haunting me now ? Wasn't it over ? Jesus! Help please ?

[DjSystemz]

So long story short. I was dating a 16 year old last summer. Im 20 now and was 19 when i started dating her. We broke up in October of last year and we had sex about 3 to 4 times. Her parents come from a really religious background. They believe in no sex until marriage and all that jazz. Anyways, word on the street is that my ex squeeled to her parents that we had sex. She told them recently. It has been 6 months since we hung out or anything. Now her mother calls and leaves a voicemail saying that she wants to talk to me and is trying to cut me a break so she wont call the cops on me? But my ex already consent in having sex with me, it wasn't rape. So please please please someone help me? What do I do? What do i say to her mother? HELP !!!!

[jenny_mcs]

So long story short. I was dating a 16 year old last summer. Im 20 now and was 19 when i started dating her. We broke up in October of last year and we had sex about 3 to 4 times. Her parents come from a really religious background. They believe in no sex until marriage and all that jazz. Anyways, word on the street is that my ex squeeled to her parents that we had sex. She told them recently. It has been 6 months since we hung out or anything. Now her mother calls and leaves a voicemail saying that she wants to talk to me and is trying to cut me a break so she wont call the cops on me? But my ex already consent in having sex with me, it wasn't rape. So please please please someone help me? What do I do? What do i say to her mother? HELP !!!!

 

I just looked up the law in Florida. For a 16 year old, it is legally OK for her to have sex with anyone between the ages of 16-23.

 

ETA: If you end up calling her mother back, remain calm. do not get angry or use abusive language, no matter what she says to you. Although her mother disapproves, what you did was not illegal.

[alli]

I just looked up the law in Florida. For a 16 year old, it is legally OK for her to have sex with anyone between the ages of 16-23.

 

ETA: If you end up calling her mother back, remain calm. do not get angry or use abusive language, no matter what she says to you. Although her mother disapproves, what you did was not illegal.

 

That's really good for you. If this was a different state with different age of consent, then you having sex with her would be considered statutory rape even if she wanted to do it. Since it was legal for you two to have sex, then they can't possibly charge you with rape unless the girl says that you forced her to. I think the parents are more looking at statutory rape... her not being old enough... then forced rape.

 

I would probably just ignore her calls. If she actually tries to pursue this, she will figure out pretty fast that they have no grounds for charging you. But if she continues to call you and will not leave you alone, I would probably answer the phone and calmly explain that while you realize they do not approve of what happened, it was not illegal and she can look up the exact laws for herself if that is what she wants to do.

[KG]

Ignore her. She has no legal grounds. And it's an ex.

[anya1607307555]

Could there be any possibility of her being pregnant? Just a thought.

[catfeeder]

If she contacts you again, take the call or return it. First thing I'd ask is, "Are you trying to tell me that _girl's name_ is pregnant?" If the answer is no, I'd respond, "Then I must respectfully decline to continue this conversation." Say goodbye and hang up the phone. You don't owe this woman any explanations.

 

If the girl is pregnant, you've got a whole different conversation.

 

Good luck.

[KG]

Where did pregnancy come into this convo?

[DjSystemz]

no she is not pregnant, i know this for a fact because she would have already popped out a baby if she was. i called her back about 2 weeks ago and i didn't get a call back until last friday and then i get a call today about 5min ago. she left me a voicemail but i didnt even listen to it, just deleted it. i might just put her on a block on my iphone. so she will just receive a busy signal everytime she calls. am i being mean ? i really dont want to deal with this stupid * * * * anymore. im already with someone else. and what would we talk about anyways? details about the sex? i dont think she wants to know any of that. so i think ignoring would be the best and blocking her calls. she even threatned to call the police on me. but that doesnt make sense because it was legal. and she didnt claim to be rape. what a mistake going out with someone so young. we live and we learn i guess.