shy2cool Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 How do you other guys out there do this? Be great to hear replies from not-so-shy types. Link to comment
KileOriginal Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 1) Make sure the girl knows who you are and present yourself as a positive friendly person. 2) Get to know her on a friendly basis. Not necessarily friends yet, but friendly enough that she's comfortable around you. 3) Ask her out. -if failure ---> Don't take it personal and keep friendly, you've planted a seed in her that your interested but not hurt by the rejection. This may bare fruit in the future. -if success ---> Great, now you have an opportunity. Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 Not answering the question, but to the OP, you are shy because you are anxious and uncomfortable under your own skin, at least around females, but I'd venture it includes other perceived "superiors" also. I am shy around those I feel "inferior" too, including attractive ladies, so I speak from experience. That said, you do have the option to not live the rest of your life that way if you don't want to. You really should look into some programs that will help you overcome your anxiety. Good ones out there that can teach you how to do it on your own with solid methods and programs for overcoming anxiety. Link to comment
dostal_m Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 hey shy guy, alright I know im a girl and what not but the majorty of my friends are guys so I think i got the advantage on this one. FIRST: take it slow but not too slow... moving to fast will make us think your a player but moving too too slow WILL put you in the girl "back of her head friend zone" TWO: When you do ask her out... make it memorable.. dont get what I mean? here... we girls get asked out for coffee or dinner all the time... sooo... make us think your different... ask the girl out for ice-cream... (dont laugh im serious) if you show a girl a fun a cutsey side of you she'll fall for you (I promise) THREE: Be gentle... think.. highschool (and not the whorey days of highschool) use your shyness to your advantage... grab her hand touch (i'm sure you konw the drill) *** BUT*** before you can use steps one through three you should probably get to the point were she realizes your interrested*** well I dont konw your age.. but lets try this... look at her from accross a room and make slight eye contact, walk up to her and tell her you think she looks very pretty today ( well you see i dont know if you konw this girl or not I dont want a guy get slapped cause of my advice), again use your shyness to your advantage... tell her " you know im not usually this straight forward.. but can I get your number?" BINGO! (other guys dotn laugh) US girls love it when a guy is a little shy ( it shows hes not a complete cocky * * * * * * * ) so once you get her number... refere to steps One through three... p.s. Im serious about the unexpected date stuff... when a girl goes out with a guy she wants something different.. and secondly she wants to have fun.. she wants something amazing to gossip to her friends about.. and trust me while all the other girls are going on about how there dating rich- cocky-stuckup-fake-boring- assholes who annoy them to death, you my friend can be the fun and romantic guy ice cream alternatives: hmmm... toughy... see since I dont know whats in the area you live I cant really say... BUT i'd say, take her to a circus kinda show (cirque du soleil, : this is an example of a cool lil kinda showif you know of it), or if you wanna make yourself look like a GOD: (call your local animal shelter and ask if you and a friend can come in one night to take the orpahn puppies out for a walk no but seriously ask this girl you like if she would be willing to help you out at the animal shelter) this makes you seem like a super sweet guy plus its a fun date and the puppies ensure no akward silences (and if all goes well you can take her out fro icecream) Hope this helps message me on how it goes good luck Link to comment
GoneCrazy Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 dostal_m - Thanks thats some tips i'll take for myself Oh and make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend made that mistake to many times....also make sure shes not a * * * * * that could back fire pretty badly lol. Link to comment
dostal_m Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 OMG I totally forgot to mention that part in my step to step guide... well done HEMI DUDE good to know you got this guys back too lol .... and what kinda truck do u got there? F350 lifted? ... im your's lol Link to comment
GoneCrazy Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 OMG I totally forgot to mention that part in my step to step guide... well done HEMI DUDE good to know you got this guys back too lol .... and what kinda truck do u got there? F350 lifted? ... im your's lol Oh come on i can't use the L word lame ahahah. Make sure she not GAY lol. Thanks Dostal and its a charger in the pic..not mine tho i do own one. Ford kinda gir ehhhh. Well my buddy has a f-150 does that come some what close ? lol So how would a guy like me impress you ? by getting you some ice cream then going to the ford dealership ? ahahah just joking Link to comment
dostal_m Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 what year? lol older than 85' (Diesel) but newer then 02' is acceptable .. the rest is crap. Holy I went to the car show in toronto and I saw the this fully loaded F 250 "Platnuim" jesus It was like a sexy threesome on wheels. A charger eh? well by the lights I can tell its the new one.. 08 im guessing? lol sorry I like the originals way way more then what they came up with now... plus I aint a Dodge lover lol sorry A girls gotta stay true to her trucks Link to comment
dostal_m Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 actully yes that would impress me lol come to think of it lol and try and dirft an all wheel drive dualie... which is nearly impossible lol so good luck Link to comment
GoneCrazy Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 what year? lol older than 85' (Diesel) but newer then 02' is acceptable .. the rest is crap. Holy I went to the car show in toronto and I saw the this fully loaded F 250 "Platnuim" jesus It was like a sexy threesome on wheels. A charger eh? well by the lights I can tell its the new one.. 08 im guessing? lol sorry I like the originals way way more then what they came up with now... plus I aint a Dodge lover lol sorry A girls gotta stay true to her trucks His is an 01 if i'm right so just before they wen't out all junky ahahha. Well I aint to big on ford my mom has a ford SUV its nice in the winter but it has its problems. My charger is an 07. I hear that a lot people liking the orginial better fair enough. I do dig the new chally. actully yes that would impress me lol come to think of it lol and try and dirft an all wheel drive dualie... which is nearly impossible lol so good luck Alright can i borrow your ride...so if i roll it i have my own car to take home j/k. So i'm guessing your from the east side of canada ? or am i wrong ? Link to comment
shy2cool Posted March 22, 2009 Author Share Posted March 22, 2009 1) Make sure the girl knows who you are and present yourself as a positive friendly person. 2) Get to know her on a friendly basis. Not necessarily friends yet, but friendly enough that she's comfortable around you. 3) Ask her out. -if failure ---> Don't take it personal and keep friendly, you've planted a seed in her that your interested but not hurt by the rejection. This may bare fruit in the future. -if success ---> Great, now you have an opportunity. 1. Check. 2. Yeah, that's pretty much us for now. 3. Bit iffy on this one. I am unsure about how I feel - I feel good when I speak with her, and I work with her so yeah.... but we do only live once. Link to comment
jcoven02 Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 How do you other guys out there do this? Be great to hear replies from not-so-shy types. Well, I know the rule is you're not supposed to show interest. No buying drinks, no asking for her number, that sort of crap. Fooey I say. Treat a girl like a human being. If you're interested, smile at her, talk to her, compliment her shirt or hair or whatever. Link to comment
COtuner Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 I actually like the zoo - that's a good place to invite someone too. A little off beat, there's things to talk about and walking around to do. Or the botanic gardens. I also like that, but it's a bit awkward for a first date. Second or third is better. Link to comment
SoMuchLove Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 You just have to push your comfort zone! If you do nothing you get nothing! Anyways, just say things like "I like the way you think" or "I like your sense of humor". These are really simple compliments that people take notice of but never really voice out loud. I used to be REALLY shy so I know how this is. Link to comment
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