How can i break down the wall!

[deff808]

I got out of a short term relationship back in Nov 08'. Before that relationship i was single for two 1/2 years, wanted to be single. Because i was in a 7yr relationship. I guess i wanted to go threw that phase of having fun, enjoying my life!

My dad past away back in Sept 18th, my brothers birthday. Next month my ex broke up with me. Maybe its my attitude has change, of not building attraction or lack in self confidence. Since my incident in my family.

I do go out, at least 3 times a week or even more. With alot of friends and co-workers. Mostly the friends i call, is girls! Yes! I have alot of girl - friends... They call me to hang out, i guess they enjoy my company as much i enjoy theirs. They're all nice gals! They're between from 18-23yrs old....

I'm a middle man of my two best friends, and i know their boy friends as well to. Like a sister brother thing, as why i go often more to meet new girls or new friends. And i do get girls numbers! But after that, i go blank!

Its like... "i bet i can get that girls number tonight...."

But what the hell do you do next! In a sort of way!

Offcourse i call them, and we do hang out.

I get * * * * blocked everytime, guys and even girls! Yes!

I just want to have a 1-1 on time, but everytime i call them girls... They all bring out their friends! Need to cut her out of the group....

Sometimes i over hear their conversations talking about me - nice guy, sweet guy, good listener, handsome, he has a sweet ride etc.....

 

I dunno, maybe i might have to meet a girl that is little more older, that already went threw the party phase and ready to date.....

 

Tell me! Maybe i have to be more of a jack ass!

 

Couple of my friends try to hook me up, be my wing man... Some of the girls is like, i don't wanna settle down blah blah... But what about just hooking up?!?! Some of them say, i'm not like that....

 

Example - someone have a conversation with this girl for like 10-20 minutes, everythings is clicking etc.... You walk away to get a drink, you come back, shes talking to another dude, you don't want to interrupt, they walk upstairs.... With this jack ass attitude guy....

 

But in the long run, that girl is not the one for you.... Think about it!

[Day_Walker]

I think that you have to right approach in that you have a good amount of girls that are friends. Girls are a very useful weapon as far as getting other girls is concerned. What you do need to learn is when a girl is actually into you, then you will have more success because you can get all the numbers you want but that doesnt mean that the girl is interested in you. I suggesting that you set up informal hang out sessions with the girls that you meet out and just go out with multiple girls a week, basically you are looking to just hang out with as many as you. Put way more on your plate than you can deal with and you will learn how the weeding out process works.

[deff808]

Some of them told me.... I like hanging out with you, not like other guys try to get all into my pants! Maybe i'm just into the friend zone to much.....

Yes, some of them girls can also be my wingman offcourse...

 

One night, i had 6 girls around me. I always the only guy. This was couple weeks ago. I had no idea what to do! Because i have all their #s, but i need to spread the pack somewhere else and just talk to 1..... Plus its a good way to learn alot about girls! Still learning! Suprised everyday, of what they say about their personal lifes....

 

Thanks day_walker!