BobBlitzer Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Hi I'm Bob and I have a problem.I've been dating this fantastic girl for a month and we haven't had sex yet, but I fear when we do I won't be able to perform or fulfill her sexual needs.She's so beautiful and sexy, I can't believe she would go out with an average guy like me.Whenever weve started kissing or touching and I feel her soft skin touch me I become very aroused and have a rather embarassing accident in my pants. I'm really crazy about this girl but I'm so worried she will laugh at me and I won't see her again, what should I do?. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Google some techniques on how to delay ejaculation. You're obviously so excited that you can't hold on very long. Also, try to work on not havnig this be so much about 'goddess worship' and more about her being a human being just like you. don't let her beauty influence your judgment either... she may be beautiful, but she is just a human being like anyone else and you need to make sure she is as good as she looks and not just a fantasy that you create because you are so excited about her looks. And just because she's a looker doesn't mean she more sexual needs (or different ones) than other women. So take her off the pedestal and you might be calmer and more able to perform. Link to comment
springmud2008 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Don't worry. In my opinion, if she really likes you, I don't think she cares. By the way, if she likes you because of your personality, not your appearance, you are not average to her. Link to comment
angellight Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Not to be crude...but pleasure yourself before you see her so when the time comes, you wont.... Link to comment
CrazyKing Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 You know what - try not to think about her while making out... Link to comment
jstaman Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 First off. Kudos for finding a beautiful woman that you enjoy being with, always good to hear of someone find a special person for them. Next some questions to help us better understand your situation bob. Answer if you want to. 1. Age range - 15-20...20-25...25-30 ETC ETC 2. Is this your first relationship? 3. Are you a virgin? 4. have you always had this issue or is it just with this one woman? 5. do you experience this problem anywhere else? Not with women things like that (over stimulation ETC) 6. Do you get nervous before hand (anticipating this happening and worrying about it profusely?) 7. If you are on any kind of medication have you looked them up to see if they may have a side effect that could lead to a problem like this. Like I said answer if you want to not forcing anything upon you. Link to comment
meepmeep20 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 First off. Kudos for finding a beautiful woman that you enjoy being with, always good to hear of someone find a special person for them. Next some questions to help us better understand your situation bob. Answer if you want to. 1. Age range - 15-20...20-25...25-30 ETC ETC 2. Is this your first relationship? 3. Are you a virgin? 4. have you always had this issue or is it just with this one woman? 5. do you experience this problem anywhere else? Not with women things like that (over stimulation ETC) 6. Do you get nervous before hand (anticipating this happening and worrying about it profusely?) 7. If you are on any kind of medication have you looked them up to see if they may have a side effect that could lead to a problem like this. Like I said answer if you want to not forcing anything upon you. Link to comment
BobBlitzer Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Hey guys thanks so much for all your advice. I'm 20 and this has happened before with my previous girlfriend but she found it very funny and has left me feeling really insecure ever since. It's not really something I feel I can ask the Doctor for help with as it's so embarassing.I'm worried she won't wait much longer for me to be ready to have sex with her and when I do attempt to I will go off like a loaded gun. Link to comment
alcide Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 You see you think too much of her, you see her like she worth more than you and thats bad, relax, but what to do try to masturbate before you go have sex with her, take good tonic, and so on, so you can lass longer. Link to comment
jordg1 Posted March 22, 2009 Share Posted March 22, 2009 if you wear a condom while having sex(which you should unless you want kids or she is on birth control)and if you can stay standing(if you know what i mean)then you should be alright for the most part. she wont notice how many time you have came and will just keep going.Or you could just try masterbation...which is rather disgusting to me, but its you and it might just help your situation. Link to comment
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