hurt when rubbing her clit?

[axel585]

first off i would like to say this website is the best, i haven't been apart of it long but its been so helpful in the past. Anyway today l laying next to my girlfriend after sex and i stated to play with her down there. she showed all the sighs that she was enjoying it when i was rubbing her clit however in the middle of it she grabs my hand and says "it hurts" so i stopped. any ideas why? i tried oral but i never get the same reaction when i use my tongue. i would like oral to work but my hands seem to do better, but i keep on hurting her so some tip and input would be great, thank you

[ladybug726]

Because it's very sensitive. For some more than others.

[hers]

no guy knows how to rub a girl like she knows how to rub herself. they don't know the pressure to apply, how fast to go, etc. and yes, it does start to hurt. the reason it doesn't hurt with oral is that it's always lubricating with your spit, so it doesn't get "raw" like it does with the fingers, which stay dry. even when i masturbate with my fingers, i have to wet them somehow so i dont make myself raw.

 

so that's probably why. it's nice of you to want to pleasure her this way, but i say stick to fingering or oral. it'll please her better. i dont allow guys to rub me like that, not for their lack of trying.

[Sunny1607307996]

Some girls don't like direct stimulation on their clit. It's very, very sensitive. And even if she does like direct stimulation, sometimes it's painful if she's not fully aroused.

 

Does she masterbate? If so, when she touches herself does it hurt?

 

I wouldn't take this personally. It probably has nothing to do with you, its just her personal preference.

[jengh]

It can be a VERY sensitive area! You need to be really gentle. If you're comfortable, ask her to show you the way she does it and go from there.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Were you using lube? If not, that will greatly help.

 

Also, too much pressure, especially pressure pushing straight down does hurt.

[lost1607307474]

It's a very sensitive area and if rubbed with too much pressure to too rapidly or too much it often hurts.

[axel585]

i would but shes one of those people that don't masturbate. she said she never did. so asking her has no point lol

[lost1607307474]

i would but shes one of those people that don't masturbate. she said she never did. so asking her has no point lol

 

There is a point to asking her. She would know what hurts and what doesn't hurt. If you're getting intimate just ask her how she likes it do be done. And even if she hasn't ever masturbated (which she certainly may have you know) she will know what her vagina looks and feels like and how much pressure can be applied before it hurts.

[Piper182]

after sex it gets more sensitive. the orgasm is what does it. take it as it comes and make sure she tells you when it hurts.

[fixyou_]

Be easy! Too much pressure and it does hurt.

[laisla]

just rub the area above the clit (it feels like a "stem") with your hand very gently. don't touch the actual clitoris with your fingers. some girls like getting a guy's tongue on the clitoris, but a tongue and a finger are so different...

[lost1607307474]

^ good advice.

[heybaby]

can you send me a PM? I think i can help =]

[jordg1]

if youre rubbing fast then i see why...or if youre putting to much pressure it would definitely hurt...lube it first...or try the very very light touch...barely even touch it but make sure when you hear even the slightest moan...stop kiss her then do it again...she will get very aroused...so what im saying is turn it into a seductive teasing kind of thing... hope this helped a little bit!!

[arcadefire]

I wouldn't go too hard, be gentle, just stroke it or rub from the sides. Rubbing from above using the hood could help. In general, ask her to tell you how she likes it, like she can say be softer or go higher etc.