treehouse7888 Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 are those public records online usually accurate and sincere? because i ran a search on someone online who i have a relationship with, to only find out it appears or he seems to be using a false identity and has been lying to me for years. what i did was trace his cell phone number and instead of the name he is using now, the results said a different name, i'm soooooooo confused because when i asked him he said thats someone who he works with who pays his cell phone bill. but a while back when i asked him how much his phone bill is usually, he said $90 etc etc. now who in the heck would pay someone's phone bill and do i continue to believe this guy or what? i really dont want to jump to any conclusions but i feel like he is lying to me and something isnt right. and do you think its wrong i did this? what would you do? Link to comment
hers Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 is there a reason you're trying to find out so much about him? Link to comment
treehouse7888 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 yes because he has been acting strange lately and lying to me about stuff online. etc Link to comment
hers Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 why not break up with him then instead of trying to find such hardcore evidence? if you know he's been lying, don't try to find the evidence to prove it jsut to show it to him. just leave. Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Did you do this search because you had a gut feeling something wasn't right? If you've known him for years and never had any suspicions, why are you trying to find out information about him now? Did he offer any explanation as to why someone else pays his phone bill? By the way, just asking him what his phone bill is, is not at all the same thing as asking who pays it, so this doesn't sound like a lie on his part. However, if your intuition is telling you something - listen to it. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 I would not trust the online public records. You know that expression "you get what you pay for"...well, if you are searching online and are not paying a dime you might be getting very misleading information. For example, some of those websites which comb through the internet and compile a professional "profile" of someone often just slap together information without any context. A person who might work for X organization but also has side links with Y organization may be listed as employed by the Y organization if there is more information on the web linking that person with Y rather than X. So the information is really inaccurate and misleading. If you don't trust your partner then end the relationship..don't waste your time spying. Link to comment
treehouse7888 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 crazyaboutdogs, you are right but he actually admitted it saying he knows that person. LOL so the results must have been accurate nutbrownhare, i guess when you get to the point of someone starting to show themselves not trustworthy anymore you ponder and want to know whats going on, you want answers. i dont to accuse him of anything especially without any proof but sometimes you just need some kind of evidence to seal those lies. besides love makes you do crazy things. i wont waste my time. i'm just confused and curious Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 nutbrownhare, i guess when you get to the point of someone starting to show themselves not trustworthy anymore you ponder and want to know whats going on, you want answers. i dont to accuse him of anything especially without any proof but sometimes you just need some kind of evidence to seal those lies. i wont waste my time. i'm just confused If you sense something's wrong, if things just don't 'add up', don't waste your time trying to pin things down, seek justifications or make accusations. Your feelings of mistrust haven't just come from nowhere; they're there to protect you. The only times in my life when I've come unstuck is when I've ignored my intuition because it didn't seem logical - only to be proved perfectly correct in the long term. Of course you're confused. People who lie, duck and dive are confusing - what they are not trying to be is honest and straightforward. Only you can decide where you go with this. But I do think that trust, once lost, can't be regained. Link to comment
treehouse7888 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 Only you can decide where you go with this. But I do think that trust, once lost, can't be regained. exactly Link to comment
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