My boyfirend's Ex keeps blowin up his phone!!

[MyNinja]

What's wrong with this chick?? He left her 2.5 years ago and they haven't seen each other since. This girl continues to text him at all times of the day and night bugging him and me.

 

She leaves texts that say, "wow, you can't text me back, some church man you claim to be"..."hey, how are you doing?", "so, I guess you just want to forget about me, huh?", "tell your female that we are just friends", "so when are we going to **** again??" "good morning!", "long time no see"

 

She calls almost everyday, but he never answers...he wants to change his number, but that will be too difficult being that too many different ppl and important companies have his number. She's pissing me off!! She's being disrespectful and acting kind of psychotic. He told me yesterday that she called from a different number so he would answer the phone (everytime she calls from her number he just ignores it) and she was wanting him back so much....practically begging and then turning cold saying things like "you know you need me, I don't know why you're acting like this. Just come back. My kids miss you so much. I don't care about your girlfriend. You are such a great man who knows how to cook and treat a woman" (they don't have kids together, she had them by someone else)

 

This barely started happening about a month ago. Before, there was no one calling him. His phone doesn't have caller block (i wish it did). He says all he can do is just ignore the calls and texts and hopefully she will just get bored when there's no response and stop. He's really stressed out about it but he wants to reassure me that everything will be ok.

 

Is there anything we can do to get this girl to stop? I personally want to give her a piece of my mind because I'm losing my patience with her..and I don't even know her, never seen her before in my life!"

[depressed_86]

I don't know what country you're in but in the UK, stuff like this is called harassment and we file charges against the individual on this basis. They are warned and then prosecuted if necessary.

 

Perhaps your local police station/officers will be able to help you put a stop to it by telling her that she's not allowed to do that.

[Jd1983]

I agree to depressed86. Depending on your location and phone service, he can possibly find out if he can block her number from his phone or file a harassment charge against her. It doesn't sound like she's about to give up anytime soon - hope everything works out in the longrun.

[MyNinja]

Im in Cali...I need to find out if his phone service has a caller block (he's with Cricket) I will let him know about getting the authorities involved. I wouldn't threaten her with that as she would just laugh and probably call more. I'm just going to tell him to do it and not let her know

[shikashika]

as other posters have said.. can't he block her?

[MyNinja]

I'm going to check his phone for myself. He may have that service on his phone..if not, I'll go to his service and see if there's anything we can do. If not, I'm getting the authorities involved

[amipushy]

I'm going to check his phone for myself. He may have that service on his phone..if not' date=' I'll go to his service and see if there's anything we can do. If not, I'm getting the authorities involved[/quote']

 

With all due respect, its not your place to do that. If it bothered him that much he would do it himself. Believe me, he would.

 

If and when it does, he will/should be the one to do those things, not you.

[Kalika]

I'm confused.. Why out of the blue did she start calling him after all this time?

[DN]

Even if you did go to the authorities they would take no action unless he was the one who made the complaint.

 

And if he were to complain they would ask him if he has specifically told her to stop before they would act.

[lost1607307474]

Wow, I would not be able to deal with that! How frustrating!

 

How does your boyfriend respond to her calls and texts? Or does he just ignore her? Because I think he needs to give her a piece of mind. He basically just needs to tell her to * * * * off and stop contacting him, probably harshly so she gets the message. Has he done this? Or is she just relentless?

[xmrth]

If it's been 2.5 years he MUST be communicating back to her... I mean who would do that for that long with no responses?

And also, any phone can block a number. His can too, you can probably find it on google how to, you can literally do it yourself. And if not, still 100% possible.

I htink you literally press like *00 (some number) and then the phone number and it becomes blocked or something.

[ToodlePip]

Blocking the number probably won't help here if she calls from hidden or other number. I concur with xmrth - he's gotta be throwing her some crumbs.

[DN]

I think it very dangerous to make assumptions that he is somehow encouraging her behaviour - that is like saying someone is responsible for someone stalking them.

 

If anything the messages she is sending show that he isn't responding at all

"wow, you can't text me back, some church man you claim to be"..."so, I guess you just want to forget about me, huh?", "long time no see"

[circi]

If it's been 2.5 years he MUST be communicating back to her... I mean who would do that for that long with no responses?

And also, any phone can block a number. His can too, you can probably find it on google how to, you can literally do it yourself. And if not, still 100% possible.

I htink you literally press like *00 (some number) and then the phone number and it becomes blocked or something.

 

 

I would definitely think he's communicated with her on some level, why would she come out of the blue like this and suddenly blow up his phone? However, saying any phone can block any number is definitely not accurate. I finally had to change my phone number after having it for I don't even know how many years, because my cell provider doesn't block numbers and my model phone is incapable of doing it.

[ToodlePip]

I think it very dangerous to make assumptions that he is somehow encouraging her behaviour - that is like saying someone is responsible for someone stalking them.

 

If anything the messages she is sending show that he isn't responding at all

 

Oops yes missed that. But... What was the previous message? We don't know the frequency etc. When I say crumbs, I really do mean crumbs. One text on his part for 20 of hers is still crumbs.

[DN]

She may have ended a relationship and decided that she wanted her ex back.

 

She may have found old photos and suddenly realised what she had lost.

 

Her children may have been bugging her about the father figure that they no longer have.

 

Any one of a number of things could have impelled her to start texting after a considerable time - so I think to sow seeds of suspicion in mo'Nique's mind that her boyfriend is somehow responsible for this when he clearly is not interested in getting back with his ex is unnecessary and potentially damaging to her relationship where there is no need. Conjecture without any evidence can be a dangerous thing.

[MyNinja]

He has told her to stop calling and texting the last time she called which was two days ago, I think. She called again last night three times back to back and left a voice msg. I asked him has she been doing this before we got together. He said, "She called a couple times but then stopped altogether. Her calling just started up again this year."

 

His ex said "You and your gf must be living together which is why you are not talking to me, before you two moved in together, we would talk all the time during the nights, what happened" Then she sent a txt about 15 mins later saying "A king needs his queen" (for the record, we are not living together). He felt so bad about that call because he thought that I thought he was still interested in her based off what she said. I know he isn't and that isn't an issue with me. I know this girl is trying to push my buttons and have me questioning his sincerity. He says he just going to have to change his number (he has many potenial job interviews, so he's waiting for those calls to come through)

 

I told him about filing a harassment charge, but he says he can't afford it (he really can't). I wouldn't mind paying for the charges, but I'm flat broke as well...this economy is rough.

 

I told him last night if he wants me to speak to her. He said no that he doesn't want me to get involved and talk to her at all because that would give her more reason to call. He said nothing gets through to her, no matter what you say and how you say it. I'm going ask him to try that *00, or to call his company and find out if they provide number block.

[PsychGirly]

Why doesn't he just get a restraining order?

 

Have him threaten her with one first, & if that doesn't phase her, tell him to get one.

 

That way, if she contacts him after the restraining order, she'll face charges.

[EQD]

I Actually went through a situation very similar to this in high school. i almost beat the girl up (i was very immature... very)

but i actually found out that he was giving her reasons to call him.

might want to keep your eyes open for whats going on behind your back, sometimes there is a good reason why they arent giving up contact. could be that he is encouraging it when you arent around.

[girl68]

Pretty sure most carriers can block numbers.

[MyNinja]

I'll mention that to him as well (the restraining order). He told me the reason he broke it off with her was because she was the demanding and controllling type and that she wanted someone to watch after her three kids at all times. He really was angry last night when she called those three times back to back. He said, "I don't like this at all. It's not fun having girls call you when you are already with someone. I'm with you and I want you only, I don't want her calling anymore. This isn't a game and I don't look forward to her calls and texts wondering what she says"

[PsychGirly]

I'll mention that to him as well (the restraining order). He told me the reason he broke it off with her was because she was the demanding and controllling type and that she wanted someone to watch after her three kids at all times. He really was angry last night when she called those three times back to back. He said' date=' "I don't like this at all. It's not fun having girls call you when you are already with someone. I'm with you and I want you only, I don't want her calling anymore. This isn't a game and I don't look forward to her calls and texts wondering what she says"[/quote']

 

It's great that he's being smart about it & not responding to her, but for the sake of yours & his sanity, I would go ahead with the restraining order.

[AmIafool]

I really don't think Mo'Nique's boyfriend is throwing this woman any crumbs. She sounds crazy enough to do just what she's doing without any prompting from him. You can see from her texts that she is making a lot of assumptions, mainly that he won't talk to her because his girlfriend won't let him, and that they must be living together. She comes accross as very pushy and arrogant, like she can't imagine a man would NOT want to be with her of his own volition.

 

Also, when she says stuff like "we used to talk together nights before you moved in with your girlfriend..." she's making that cr*p up. She knows that Mo'Nique is probably aware of her texting and calling, and she's throwing that there to make it look like something is going on behind Mo'Nique's back.

[MyNinja]

Are there any charges involved. I never had to go to these measures before with someone

[PsychGirly]

Are there any charges involved. I never had to go to these measures before with someone

 

There are no costs to file a restraining order. The restraining order is delivered to the defendant by a state marshal, which the state pays for.