flash83 Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 hi everyone, interesting problem.. a new one for me. i went out drinking with my friends on st pattys day and got a bit drunk.. ok well REALLY drunk and i got kicked out of the bar. i was waiting for the rest of my friends with another friend. she is a very innocent girl and i offended her. apparently i started to rant about how there is no such thing as soulmates or 'the one'.. any two people that have good chemistry and get along can make it work. i also said that finding that one is tough because what you want on paper doesn't always work out. i know her parents are protective and i said don't listen to what they think is right for you, YOU have to find out what is right for you blah blah blah.. she then started to cry .. i think i was confused. anyways the next day my friend told me she was really upset because i crushed her "dreams of 'the one'". she also said no one is mad at me because it was kind of the truth and she'd probably figure it out on her own eventually. she also said shes overly sensitive, she posted a video of herself singing on youtube and a friend called her a * * * * jokingly and she cried. now the thing is that shes close friends with my friend so id like her to be able to hang around me but shes very upset. i already apologized through email and doesn't want to talk on the phone.. im not sure what to do? Link to comment
Lush Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Not really anything else to do. Not everyone agrees on everything. She was offended by your opinion...she doesn't have to take it for fact unless she wants to. Link to comment
Sweet Venus Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Tell her to grow a pair, and stop crying like a baby..lol j/k.. Agree with the last poster. Link to comment
flash83 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 Not really anything else to do. Not everyone agrees on everything. She was offended by your opinion...she doesn't have to take it for fact unless she wants to. yeah thats what i said too, i told her it was my view on things and its as valid as anyone else's opinion. but if she is seriously that troubled by it i think she may kind of believe it? Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 If you're that lucid when you're drunk, then you're a national treasure. Dude, be honest with yourself. This girl is sheltered and better her hear the truth now and be "crushed" than be heart broken in the future by the reality of the world. Link to comment
sosilver Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 She needs to be able to take other opinions as well, you probably just shook her out of her comfort zone and shes upset Link to comment
DJBaby Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 She sounds like a little girl. The world will eat her up if her skin doesn't thicken a little. Link to comment
flash83 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 well any ideas on how to repair the friendship? Link to comment
sosilver Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Have you talked since then? Maybe you could email her explaining how you feel? Link to comment
flash83 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 Have you talked since then? Maybe you could email her explaining how you feel? i tried already.. she was surprisingly very upset about it. doesn't care that i was drunk, was just my opinion, etc. Link to comment
sosilver Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Um ...ok, then maybe your mutual friends could try talking to her and you can give her some time and see in a couple weeks how she feels. And you are right, it is surprising that she is that upset, unless you dont remember everything you said that night...was anyone else around? Link to comment
flash83 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 Um ...ok, then maybe your mutual friends could try talking to her and you can give her some time and see in a couple weeks how she feels. And you are right, it is surprising that she is that upset, unless you dont remember everything you said that night...was anyone else around? yeah i had a mutual friend talk to her and she says thats all i said and that is exactly what she is upset about. thats why no one else is upset at me. Link to comment
sosilver Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 IMO she is over reacting, but you cant help it, its obviously something she feels strongly about. Just give her space and show her you respect her opinion and hopefully she realizes she should do the same. If she cant get over it, it would be immature of her to let your opinion on something come in the way of a friendship Link to comment
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