str8edge Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 I'm in a relationship that needs alot of work. Actually, my life is extremely complicated and I even convinced myself that it would be okay to have an affair. I actually justified it in my mind by saying I needed a distraction from my life. I went as far as chatting online with a married woman in the same boat, but we ended up talking eachother out of having an affair together. I have since deleted all of the dating site accounts, and deleted the email address that I used for chatting. To make a long story short, because of this website, I was able to read about other peoples negative experiances with cheating and affairs. This website helped me make the right decision not to cheat and to work out my issues and take steps to improve my life. Thank you to all that posted your experiances. You have saved me from making a terrible mistake and saved me from hurting my SO. She means the world to me, whether we stay together or not. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 This is such a refreshing post as we usually hear that the poster has already entered into the affair. I wish you much luck in making your marriage stronger and healthier. Link to comment
avman Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 I'm really glad to hear this. You don't want to trade one set of problems for a whole other set of problems. Focus on addressing the issues in your current relationship. It will take all of your energy to do that so at least give it a try. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Good for you that you saw the light before the damage was done. Link to comment
top bloke Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Great to hear this. For doing a good thing your soul will be better for your decision. Youve gone from weakness to strength..fantastic to see... Humanity has that much more hope just by your decision..well done! Link to comment
LBP Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Posts like this remind you why this site is worth frequenting. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 You not only might have saved your marriage but hers as well. I am glad you made such a good choice for your life. good luck and please post the issues that got you to this point in your marriage lost Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Great news, I'm so happy that you made that decision! You don't see a post like this very often, this made my day! Link to comment
doyathink Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Good on you. Showing strength instead of weakness. Link to comment
dreamwarrior Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Yay...Bravo...now that is a good man!!! Link to comment
mrmaximum Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 You went to the edge of the precipice and caught yourself. Not many are selfless enough to do so. I applaud you, many wish they had your foresight and can only remember back to the moment of truth, wishing they had made the alternative choice. I doff my hat to you sir Link to comment
str8edge Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 Thank you everyone for your kind words. It feels good to make the right decision. I don't know if my SO and I will stay together, but I am making an honest effort to deal with things properly. I've always known that affairs and cheating were wrong, but for some reason, that knowledge wasn't enough. I will start to post some of the issues that lead up to my almost having an affair in the near future in hopes that it may help someone else. Thank you again. Link to comment
top bloke Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 What are your issues? Can we help you? We would love to!! Link to comment
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