High_Hopes Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 This is the first time i've ever used one of these forums... but i'm in search of objective advice.... I am currently in a relationship (2years and we have lived together since september) and feel like that i'm not happy... my gf is a super nice person, good looking, and outgoing... yet I just feel a disconnect... There are many things in my life that I want to accomplish, but I feel that what one another wants is taking us down different paths... too compound this while I was away for a few weeks (school exchange) I met a woman... we were intimate (didn't have sex) and now I can't get her out of my head... she struck a chord with me at almost every level of my being... But we live about 1300 miles from one another.... Do I scrap the 1300 mile lady from my mind and continue as is? Do I keep my indiscretion to myself and try to get my head/heart back in my relationship? NEED HELP!!! ps - I'm not looking for pity... i know by having an indiscretion I've done a terrible thing... but I gotta figure this out! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 if you felt a connection with another woman and cannot shake it, that tells me your relationship was already doomed. your mind subconsciously was scanning for something that was missing. you found it in this other girl or some bit of it at least. this honestly doesn't happen if you are in mad love with someone. sure, you meet great people and connections happen, but you seem pretty intense about this other girl. that doesn't mean this other girl is what you should go after, it just means that your relationship isn't going to work well from here on out. Link to comment
Kalika Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Terribly unfair of you to cheat without making your feelings known first. You should probably break up with Girlfriend. No need to tell her about the cheating, in my opinion. But quit pretending. Link to comment
waveseer Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 I agree that emotionally you have crossed the point of no return. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 I am currently in a relationship (2years and we have lived together since september) and feel like that i'm not happy... my gf is a super nice person, good looking, and outgoing... yet I just feel a disconnect... There are many things in my life that I want to accomplish, but I feel that what one another wants is taking us down different paths... What do you mean by this? What has changed since the time you moved in together only 6 months ago that was not a problem for the first year and a half? Why did you move in together? Link to comment
High_Hopes Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 What I want in life and what she wants in life are not the same thing. Where she eventually wants to live and work has no interest to me, and the same is true for her with where I would like to live and work. I am super busy with school, work, and extra-curricular activities. By moving in together I figured this would be the best way to maintain our relationship. But some times it amplifies things if I am coming in late from either school, work, etc... I try to involve her with things I do, but she either is working herself or simply does not have an interest in it.... Link to comment
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