One girl, 2 friendships lost.

[cant-stop-loving-her]

This is sort of a rant.. If you can make sense out of it, I would appreciate some advice.

 

There's a circle of friends at university. I "got in" to it about a year ago. I became really good friends with especially one girl [let's call her girl A]. With girl A, I am VERY VERY certain about how we both feel; it's just friendship.. ie. she's like my sister and vice-versa and it has always been that way.

 

Now, this school year her cousin joined our uni [call her girl B].. and ever since the first time I met her, I felt she had a thing for me. At first I was neutral, she was nice and good-looking and everything but I was in a not-looking-for-a-relationship-type-of-phase.. Just didn't want to get involved.

 

2 weekends ago, she [girl B] told me she liked me.. Not knowing exactly how to react, I told her I liked her too.. which is true but we both know we don't stand a chance.. family conflicts.. which is another story but bottom-line is, we can't be together.

So we broke it off after only 4 days, but now my friendship with girl B is on an edge. Its hard to go back to being just friends when we're tempted everytime we're together..

 

Not only that, but by being with girl B I've ruined my relationship with girl A. And this is my biggest regret. I valued my friendship with girl A deeply because we trusted each other, but because of what happened, she doesn't even talk to me anymore.. and I can't blame her.. as it's hard for me to talk to her as well. Things are awkward, weird and all messed up.

 

I just want to not see girl B for a while and try to fix things with girl A.. but its not gonna work.. In 2 weeks school breaks for the year, exams start and WHOOSH. They're gone for summer. I'm the only one taking summer classes out of us 3 so for 4 months I will not see them.

 

 

I feel like there's no way to fix what's been lost. Can anyone see a way through?

[Cuppedia]

Actually I think vacations could be a good thing as it would give girl A some time to cool down and maybe get a less emotional idea of whatever it was that made her stop talking to you. Also, you can use that time to get over girl B so you can be friends again.

 

But yes, 4 months is a LONG time, so a couple of days before school ends you can try to talk to girl A and see if anything comes out of it. You could also wait a month to phone or visit her, try to make her see your point of view and considering you were friends with her for about a year I guess there's still some hope.

[cant-stop-loving-her]

Actually I think vacations could be a good thing as it would give girl A some time to cool down and maybe get a less emotional idea of whatever it was that made her stop talking to you. Also, you can use that time to get over girl B so you can be friends again.

 

But yes, 4 months is a LONG time, so a couple of days before school ends you can try to talk to girl A and see if anything comes out of it. You could also wait a month to phone or visit her, try to make her see your point of view and considering you were friends with her for about a year I guess there's still some hope.

 

 

I was thinking the same thing, time away would only be good for everyone. The talking before school ends idea sounds cool, I'll probably do that.