theWalla Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 This may seem like an arbitrary question but... If you could choose between having children, or having enough money to last the rest of your life and enough resources to accomplish any of your dreams...what would you choose? I feel that either way, I may eventually regret not having chosen the other. This is mostly a question for people considering having children someday, but any opinion is welcome. Link to comment
theWalla Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 This may seem like an arbitrary question but... If you could choose between having children, or having enough money to last the rest of your life and enough resources to accomplish any of your dreams...what would you choose? I feel that either way, I may eventually regret not having chosen the other. This is mostly a question for people considering having children someday, but any opinion is welcome. Link to comment
melrich Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 As someone who has kids, the answer would be kids every day of the week. I am in the fortunate position of not having to worry so much about money and certainly before we had kids I lived a very lavish lifestyle. But the happiness that I got from that is just not a patch on the joy I get from my kids. To be honest, money vs kids....it's not even the same ballpark. Link to comment
melrich Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 As someone who has kids, the answer would be kids every day of the week. I am in the fortunate position of not having to worry so much about money and certainly before we had kids I lived a very lavish lifestyle. But the happiness that I got from that is just not a patch on the joy I get from my kids. To be honest, money vs kids....it's not even the same ballpark. Link to comment
lila... Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 That's a very tough question for me because I'm a very ambitious person, but I would also love to have children one day, lots of them. Hopefully I'll never be but in that position to choose! But at the end of the day I would choose children, definitely. Like Melrich put it, you can't even compare the joy one gives you to the other. Link to comment
lila... Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 That's a very tough question for me because I'm a very ambitious person, but I would also love to have children one day, lots of them. Hopefully I'll never be but in that position to choose! But at the end of the day I would choose children, definitely. Like Melrich put it, you can't even compare the joy one gives you to the other. Link to comment
Anna. Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 Babies all day everyday. Take that with a grain of salt, b/c i have a beautiful 1 year old daughter. But I am poor and it's ok b/c i have family. You can't buy happiness but children are the greatest blessings in the world. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 It depends. If I don't have money to raise kids, I wouldn't have kids. This has too many variables for me to answer. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 This may seem like an arbitrary question but... If you could choose between having children, or having enough money to last the rest of your life and enough resources to accomplish any of your dreams...what would you choose? I feel that either way, I may eventually regret not having chosen the other. This is mostly a question for people considering having children someday, but any opinion is welcome. I never wanted children. I prefer to know that I have enough money that I won't be out on the street. Link to comment
spinstermanquee Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 I'm with CAD. Even though I love and appreciate the child I raised, who is for the most part a decent human being... I think parenting is mostly a thankless task with a large price tag, and accompanied by a "when is my next big gift or check or splurge" mentality that never goes away, thanks to peer and media infiltration. Link to comment
laisla Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 being happy with children, or being happy with money? children for me of course. my nieces and nephews give us so much happiness. and it's less superficial than whatever money can buy. Link to comment
Beautiful Nightmare Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 Since I'm still young and have no kids, I'm going to choose money. It'd be a nice feeling knowing I'll always have the love and comfort of a home. I do want kids someday, but if I don't have the means necessary to give them the life they deserve, then I won't have any. If it ever really came down to it (career vs. starting a family), I have absolutely no idea what I'd choose, and I honestly hope I never have to. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 Children. I'm not a money focused person. Never have been. Link to comment
theWalla Posted March 18, 2009 Author Share Posted March 18, 2009 Like Melrich put it, you can't even compare the joy one gives you to the other. Having children gives you joy. But I also feel it does little to improve the world around us. Sure, they could be the next Gandhi or Einstein. But chances are they will not. It is hard for me to justify having children simply because they will give me joy. This, and I will forfeit many of the dreams and freedoms I have. I am absolutely sure I would be happy as a father. And I am sure that if I had a kid, I would say it was absolutely the best thing that ever happened to me. But my opinion at that point would be biased, would it not? I would never really know what I could have accomplished otherwise. It would feel irrelevant at that point, anyway. I don't know. I just think that either way, I will have missed a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Link to comment
LAYAAN Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 I keep thinking on n off about this. Do I want money or do I want kids. I think, I've come to a pragmatic solution that suits my personality n goals. If I get married, I'll have 1 child. That way, I would have enough money to raise a healthy n educated kid, have sufficient money to take care of my retirement and hopefully can have some time left for myself (to feed my spiritual n social needs). But even with this plan, I sometimes feel "man, kids are a costly affair for sure (both in terms of money n time)!" I don't think, I would choose to have no kids for the fear that they won't let me keep my money. I would rather work more, save more to provide for a kid. Link to comment
lost1607307474 Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 I'd choose kids hands down. Money isn't what life is about for me. My dreams and ambitions are to contribute to society and help people, and I do that every day by being a teacher. I definitely want to have kids sometime soon, even if that means not having copious amounts of money. Link to comment
NJRon Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Money doesn't carry your memory with it... Link to comment
maritalbliss Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 You know, this is such an interesting and odd topic... you'd think it'd be easy to say one way or the other - but it isn't. I definitely want to have children, but not right now LOL. My husband and I are still in school and have a few years before being fully out and in our jobs. Once in our jobs we will be making pretty good money, and we plan to save for a while b4 introducing children to our family. See but thats it: we want to save up and live off very little (what we do now in fact) to have a surplus of money for when we are raising children. We live off 1,000 a month; and we plan to keep it that way even after we are making WAY more than that monthly. So, there are other ways to become financially "set" for life, without taking kids out of the equation. Link to comment
NJRon Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Good luck with maintaining that lifestyle... i have found that most people tend to eat up any additional income. If you can keep from doing the same, then you will be setting yourselves up for success. Link to comment
avman Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 There is no right answer to this question. Everybody is different. For me I can't imagine life without my children even if it means finances are tight sometimes. Others can't fathom having to deal with kids and prefer to enjoy more money to spend on other things. That's just fine too. Link to comment
Circe Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 This may seem like an arbitrary question but... If you could choose between having children, or having enough money to last the rest of your life and enough resources to accomplish any of your dreams...what would you choose? I feel that either way, I may eventually regret not having chosen the other. This is mostly a question for people considering having children someday, but any opinion is welcome. Wow, this certainly makes you think. I don't have children right now and I've never really had a burning desire to have them. I've put the issue away as something to decide when I reach 30! My husband says he would probably like to have them at some point but wouldnt be heartbroken either way (I'm not sure how much I buy that though). I do fear - the future stress of not having enough money. I fear it could lead to unhappiness because ive seen that happen in other families. If I had to chose now between a never ending supply of money & wealth - or kids - and I had to make the decision on my own.. I guess I'd chose kids. It's my only chance to make a miracle happen, isnt it? I have a gut feeling that it's the right choice. Link to comment
jengh Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Money for sure. I don't want kids. Link to comment
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