fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 my boyfriend just broke up with me, quick background: we've been together for about a year an a half. blah blah 'together forever' totally in love. he cheated on me. caught him msging the other chick. i cheated on him. fights fights fights. tried to get over it, so we did. but kept fighting, because yeah i didnt trust him and i guess i can admit i was being clingy. LAST NIGHT got a TXT MSG (come ON!) telling me he wants a break so i called him about 1000 times. no answer. drove to his house about 4 hours ago. He broke up with me. cant stop crying. want contact. i keep checkin my phone every second etc. etc. etc. acting like a bit of a clingy freak right nowwwwwwwwww i understand that but whatever my hearts broken im in love with him. And i know he doesnt want me back. for a fact. some help me reasurance? whatever. help. NOW Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 You both made mistakes. This relationship is pretty much over. Just take some time to grieve. Things I would do after a breakup: 1. Hide the phone 2. Go for a long walk 3. Listen to music 4. clean up 5. take a warm bath 6. get some good food. Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 argh. its killing me. i know all this. i know what i should do. but dont have the strength ay. really struggling. I don't know how to do this. Just all the crap that was said you know. life together blah blah means f*** all Just thinking about all the joy times i crave it. wana leave the country type thing. but yeah that slightly helped. keep going thought because i feel ILL. Link to comment
Moz Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 Sorry it ended this way. Given time I'm sure you'll move on and put this one behind you. Link to comment
Moz Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 argh. its killing me. i know all this. i know what i should do. but dont have the strength ay. really struggling. I don't know how to do this. Just all the crap that was said you know. life together blah blah means f*** all Just thinking about all the joy times i crave it. wana leave the country type thing. but yeah that slightly helped. keep going thought because i feel ILL. Perhaps it would work if you were both willing to sit down and discuss what happened in a civlised manner...would you be willing to do that and if you managed to thrash it all out start again with him? Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 I want to discuss it. He doesnt. This is KILLING ME ive dialed the number about 50 times then not called blah. im stupid but whatever i cant help it lonely i have seen/been in contact with him everyday for the last year and a half. help Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 in a relatively short relationship, you both cheated on each other. i think its best for both of you to move on from this relationship and while it may not feel like it it now, it's probably the best thing for you. Link to comment
Moz Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 I want to discuss it. He doesnt. This is KILLING ME ive dialed the number about 50 times then not called blah. im stupid but whatever i cant help it lonely i have seen/been in contact with him everyday for the last year and a half. help I think in the long run you have accept the relationship is over and move on. Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 i wish i could move on THIS SECOND but no i feel sick. i hate the way im acting to i feel so helpless and clingy its not what i wana be like. im not usual that type of person at all you know? Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 You're acting naturally...but this isn't a healthy relationship. Not even close. Better to end it now than 6 months down the road. Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 Admitedy i just really dont want him finding someone else. how do i stop the feeling of wanting to call/msg/DRIVE THERE RIGHT NOW!!!!! Link to comment
Moz Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 Well you will have to accept that he will meet somebody else as will you. Please, move on. Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 i know il move on. maybe few weeks months whatever i dont know but as this happened THIS AFTERNOON im in rather a lot of pain and all those feelings of lonelinessss helpless blah blah hmmf. plus just dont know what to do with myself. i never been on one of these sites before. hence i just joined because i dont know what the hell to do. but thanks this is slightly helping. Link to comment
Moz Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 Well glad we are helping and hope your time here helps you move on. I'm sure you will, I mean, c'mon, you were with him a year and a half, so course you must miss him and he hurt you by cheating on you...but I think you went about it the wrong way by cheating on him. Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 I'm going to bed, i have uni really early. please keep posting guys because tomoro will hurt like hell and il be back on here i bet sometimes its easier to take advice/hear the experiences of people you dont know rather than friends. They keep asking whats going on. I really, REALLY dont have the strength to explain it to them if that makes sense? Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 oh mann i know i went the wrong way i cried for days regret is such a strong and crap feeling. it didnt feel justified at all which i thought it would ew ew i hate thinking about that. but this is a different thing now Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 Im turning my phone off Yes? yes. Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 I'll try. but might be back here again. but cheers for the help keep helping thought because mm I'm feeling rather bad. Link to comment
Grandstrand Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 It sounds like it's over. The best thing to do is to keep busy. Spend a lot of time with friends and family. Concentrate on yourself. Do something special just for you. Get involved in activities that you enjoy. It's hard to move on but you will slowly forget and find someone even better!! Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 sleeping is not an option. Just went to bed for about 2 seconds but no. Maybe i need a new bed. Ah that actually made me smile for a second hehe ahhhh RELATIONSHIPSSS *dies* Link to comment
stickman Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 It is normal to feel extreme anxiety. HOWEVER, right now you need to do nothing. That way you can't screw anything up. As above Johngalt suggested. Get some food in you, and light some candles, make yourself a nice hot bubble bath and RELAX your body and mind. Link to comment
fresha Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 I so wish i could do the whole 'whatever im over it' type thing you know like let him know i dont care and crap. but yeah. WHATHE HELL!!! ITS JUST HITTING ME NOW. AAAAAAARGH man i crave his attention, and i dont care how stupid that is because thats what im here for!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
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