I still love him, but his GF is making me her best friend!!!!!

[chiquelette]

SO basically, I have really liked my guy friend...pretty much loved him...practically since I met him about two and a half years ago. There was a point at which I was pretty sure, based on several signs and actions, that he was into me as well. We are both very shy/worry about maintaing our 'pride' i think, and things got quite messy/we ended up not talking much for a good month or two...nothing was really clearly discussed. Nether of us made our feelings/intentions definite, though I felt like I made it clear I was interested through my actions.

 

He has now had a gf for a year, and she has made a point of getting very close to me...I dont know if this is partly my fault or not, but it seems like shes is closer with me than with his other girl friends. I find it hard to spend time with her, because she talks abotu them a lot/very openly, and it makes me think about him more/regret that things didn't work out between us. There was a period where I honestly didn't tihnk about him much, but somehow, everytime I see him, my feelings redevelop/get stronger.

 

I feel incredibly guilty BEING friends with her/feeling like I'm 'hiding' something. I would never, ever, try to sabotage a relationship, but the feelings alone make me feel terrible. Also, I feel like me and the guy are both hiding in a way, since some things DID happen between us.

 

Furthermore, I still sometimes feel like he might have feelings. He stays out of my way, but when we DO get together, I get those feelings like I got when I first started to like him/things began between us.

 

Also, I know that she is probably suspicious about our past..she was pursuing him/creeping him on fb at a time when we were doing lots of things together...

 

I just don't know what to make of this whole situation/how to handle it.

[Angelzdust]

I think she's probably keeping her friends close and her enemies closer. She knows you're a threat, and knows she can't get rid of you completely, so she's doing a very smart thing by befriending you and keeping a close eye on you.

 

But I do have to say, he's in a relationship with her and not you, so any feelings you have for him have to be put aside unless they break up. After that, he's free game.

[DJBaby]

I think she's probably keeping her friends close and her enemies closer. She knows you're a threat, and knows she can't get rid of you completely, so she's doing a very smart thing by befriending you and keeping a close eye on you.

 

But I do have to say, he's in a relationship with her and not you, so any feelings you have for him have to be put aside unless they break up. After that, he's free game.

 

I totally agree. Wait until they break up. I can almost guarantee they will.