im lost

[Tornheartz]

 

 

I need help not sure if anyone else been in this place if so please help.

I been in a LDR for 2 years off and on, we brokeup once over stupid thing and we got back together, we both live in 2 different countries for now and when we first started dateing we kind of both didnt make it clear nor we knew where we wanted to live,now it came up today. He first said he would move to where Im living now and now things have changed I also told him in the past if you couldnt move I would.

Well today we got in a big argument over where is our relationship going, and because of economey he cant move now..just not possible in his eyes.

Now the problem with me is I dont want to move because Im really close to my family and im starting to sort my life out as in im in college.and I plan on getting a good job, I told him I cant move because of my family im super close to them and I cant leave them as far as leaving to a different country,he got really upset and said well then your picking your family over me, I tried to tell him its not like that but he repeated saying so you rather stay with your family then me, since he cant move to where im at..im so torn now..has any one made this decision and how did you do it? I dont want him to feel like im choosing my family over him because there both important to me, but im sorta settled here with college and family thats always there for me..

[NightLily]

Last August I ended my relationship with a Swiss guy. We had been dating for over a year and a half and under half of it was long distance. He also wanted me to move there and start going to ETH (a university). But, I didn't feel ready to move so far away without my friends or family. I also didn't feel totally secure in the relationship. At this point in life it makes sense to focus on schooling and he can wait for the two of you to be able to live together. I went to Switzerland over Christmas break and he came to me twice for 30 days once outside of his internships. There might be some sort of comprimise?

[NightLily]

Last August I ended my relationship with a Swiss guy. We had been dating for over a year and a half and under half of it was long distance. He also wanted me to move there and start going to ETH (a university). But, I didn't feel ready to move so far away without my friends or family. I also didn't feel totally secure in the relationship. At this point in life it makes sense to focus on schooling and he can wait for the two of you to be able to live together. I went to Switzerland over Christmas break and he came to me twice for 30 days once outside of his internships. There might be some sort of comprimise?