Pr0vocative Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 1) Would be between the ages 18-23 2) Enjoys holding my hand in public and isn't afraid of public affection nor is he OVERLY publicly affectionate 3) Gets to know my friends 4) Realises how precious our relationship is and would do anything before letting it go. A guy whos faithful and doesn't try get around things with technicalities 5) A best friend and someone who will be silly with me 6) A guy who will do stupid stuff like go to the park and the swings, drive me somewhere with no destination and have picnics on the living room floor 7) A guy who understands that when I'm older I wanna be married with a part time job, someone that devotes my life to my husband and have a husband who feels mutually towards me and eventually kids 8 ) A romantic guy who will surprise me and spend lots of time with me 9) Someone who makes an effort with their apperance some of the time, especially if we go out 10) lots of texts and e-mails 11) Can hold long intelligent conversations with me and fully accepts me for my talents and flaws 12) A guy who will let me lay on their lap when they're playing video games and will accept the fact that as hard as I try I suck at them and doesn't make me feel so bad about it Is this impossible to find? Link to comment
Moz Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Impossible to find? Hope not for your sake. I really hope you find him and then you two are both very happy together. Link to comment
dhjjessel Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 no, but often guys (like me) seek out a woman who is mysterious, who doesnt really know what she wants, is exciting and beautiful, and, almost like a butterfly, hard to catch. I am trying to change my taste Link to comment
Pr0vocative Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 I never said I was easy to catch Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Seems resonable to me. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 you forgot long walks on the beach..... Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 How about...And, he has a J.O.B.! Link to comment
Pr0vocative Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 He's out there but he already has a boyfriend Like that =] Link to comment
Pr0vocative Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 you forgot long walks on the beach..... and long walks on the beach =] Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 He's definitely out there, I found just that plus some...You will too! So NO its not impossible. I lived by the quote "the good ones are either gay or taken" for many yrs, but I was wrong. Link to comment
BrunetteBarbie Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 I think definitely theres a guy like that maybe you will even meet him. Maybe its not even that uncommon. But what I think is that some of the qualities you listed wont be so strong, and/or he will have also qualities you dont like very much. I dont think there is one guy that is EXACTLY like what you describe, in the degree, without a bad quality. You will have to compromise or not set your standards to so high Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 I think definitely theres a guy like that maybe you will even meet him. Maybe its not even that uncommon. But what I think is that some of the qualities you listed wont be so strong, and/or he will have also qualities you dont like very much. I dont think there is one guy that is EXACTLY like what you describe, in the degree, without a bad quality. You will have to compromise or not set your standards to so high I really don't think those standards are high at all. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 I really don't think those standards are high at all. I agree, definitely not high at all & I can add about 20 other things to that list & still would think its not too high lol. Dont set your standards too low, because there are great men out there! Link to comment
Pr0vocative Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 My last guy was pretty much an a*** I deserve so much more I don't know why I stuck with such an inadequate guy Link to comment
My Advice Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 How about...And, he has a J.O.B.! Oh jesus, why does he have to have a job? I am a career criminal when I am not hounding my parents for money as my ultimate ambition in life. Don't I need love to? Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 I don't think a man like that would be that hard to find. I am sure there are plenty out there just like that. Link to comment
glegend Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 I'd be that guy. But recently any girl that I try to get with doesn't seem to be interested. Link to comment
somethngwrng Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 I dunno about the laying on the lap while playing video games.. your head would get pretty sore from getting hit with the guitar. Mildly humorous if you get it Link to comment
Yanet Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 What if you met a guy who met all critera except the one about knowing and getting along with your friends? Would you prioritize him over them? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 What if you met a guy who met all critera except the one about knowing and getting along with your friends? Would you prioritize him over them? If he didn't get along with my friends, I'd probably not date him. Frankly, there is no reason to not like them. You don't have to LOVE my friends. But, you have to play nicely. Link to comment
dr_styles Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 I don't think a man like that would be that hard to find. I am sure there are plenty out there just like that. Yeah on reading that there isn't anything too picky in there at all. And then we wonder why nothing is happening, ah well ... Link to comment
Yanet Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 If he didn't get along with my friends, I'd probably not date him. Frankly, there is no reason to not like them. You don't have to LOVE my friends. But, you have to play nicely. I don't see why. Do you really need your boyfriend to spend time with you and your friends? Can't you separate it out (because they don't get along) and then decide how much time you want to allocate to him and them? I understand having friends is important but I don't understand why all your friends need to like each other. It's like not being friends with X because you are already friends with Y given X and Y dislike each other. Just keep them apart and don't get involved in disputes. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 I don't see why. Do you really need your boyfriend to spend time with you and your friends? Can't you separate it out (because they don't get along) and then decide how much time you want to allocate to him and them? I understand having friends is important but I don't understand why all your friends need to like each other. It's like not being friends with X because you are already friends with Y given X and Y dislike each other. Just keep them apart and don't get involved in disputes. Because if he didn't get along with my friends, he would be an unreasonable person. There is no reason to not like my friends. So, to suddenly decide you don't like them...I don't put up with dramatic people. I get along with just about everyone. Link to comment
Yanet Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Because if he didn't get along with my friends, he would be an unreasonable person. There is no reason to not like my friends. So, to suddenly decide you don't like them...I don't put up with dramatic people. I get along with just about everyone. I don't think it is appropriate to conclude the guy would be unreasonable or dramatic. I don't think it is the case people can just get along with anyone due to personality differences unless they are masking their real personality and behaving according to some standard perceived by society to be mild mannered and generically polite. Then it comes down to whether you want your boyfriend to just put on a facade for the sake of your friends and further you can question whether he's just putting on a facade for you. Or ask yourself if you want him to get along with your friends because deep down you need others to validate your choice of boyfriend, indicating a lack of confidence in your own judgement, perhaps. Link to comment
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