stillhere18 Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Ok now im not dry to brag honestly, but last night my gf and i tried having sex for the second time now. Each time she said my penis hurts her vagina we try to have sex. We have been going out for 9 months. We even did the whole foreplay thing and used lubricant (astroglide) but still it hurt her. Is this normal and is there anything i could do to fix this? Link to comment
Angelzdust Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Maybe try changing positions? Doggy will let you go deeper, or her on top will let her control things. She may just need to relax a bit more, if it is only her second time she might be talking herself into the idea it will hurt. (If that makes sense) Link to comment
CrazyKing Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Ok now im not dry to brag honestly, but last night my gf and i tried having sex for the second time now. Each time she said my penis hurts her vagina we try to have sex. We have been going out for 9 months. We even did the whole foreplay thing and used lubricant (astroglide) but still it hurt her. Is this normal and is there anything i could do to fix this? Common, women can give birth, and a baby is a whole lot bigger than a men's ... ... Has she lost her virginity prior to that??? Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Women have babies through their vagina. A penis is nothing in comparison. Sex can be mental, as much as physical and emotional. Is she a virgin? If not, she can clearly take a penis. If she's tensing up, the penis isn't going to fit. If she's nervous about the pain, getting worked up, uncomfortable, scared..its a no go. She needs to be relaxed mentally and physically. If she's anticipating pain and/or that it won't fit..it won't. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Has she healed from the first time you had sex? If she had extensive tearing from breaking her hymen, it could be quite painful if she hasn't healed. And if you didn't break the hymen fully, or she has an unusually thick hymen, she may need a doctor's visit to fix that. So i doubt you are too big for her, it sounds more like she is tense and might need a visit to the doctor to check out if she needs minor surgery to open a too tight hymen. Link to comment
Moz Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Often I think the head is the largest sexual organ. I think i'ts more a psycological problem for her, where she is tensing up and therefore is in pain. Link to comment
maritalbliss Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Has she healed from the first time you had sex? If she had extensive tearing from breaking her hymen, it could be quite painful if she hasn't healed. And if you didn't break the hymen fully, or she has an unusually thick hymen, she may need a doctor's visit to fix that. So i doubt you are too big for her, it sounds more like she is tense and might need a visit to the doctor to check out if she needs minor surgery to open a too tight hymen. this might actually be it! My mom had to have her's cut before having sex - it was very thick I guess. mine was broken a little from a tampon accident:splat: ... BUT it still was there a little a tore/blood/hurt - she probably is still in pain... but the pain goes away so I don't know what to tell you. Link to comment
stillhere18 Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 Women have babies through their vagina. A penis is nothing in comparison. Sex can be mental, as much as physical and emotional. Is she a virgin? If not, she can clearly take a penis. If she's tensing up, the penis isn't going to fit. If she's nervous about the pain, getting worked up, uncomfortable, scared..its a no go. She needs to be relaxed mentally and physically. If she's anticipating pain and/or that it won't fit..it won't. No she told me she is not a virgin. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 If she hasn't had sex in a while, it'll go back to it's original size. I have to deal with this as I am in an LDR and it'll hurt if it is the first time in a while. This is what works for me. Go in missionary. Put a little in until she says it hurts. And then just hold it for however long it takes. When she says it's good, go a bit deeper. Continue doing this until it is all the way in. It is all about her ability to relax too. Tell her to breath slowly and think about foreplay. If you can, stimulate her with your fingers to help relax her. Really, it's a thresehold. After my boyfriend is all the way in, it stops hurting. Link to comment
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