Frustrated in general and getting angrier.

[CaptainPlanet]

I went to a house party the other night which was good. That was until I talked to a girl who sent me signals with her pretty eyes and with just about everything else.

 

I spent too long talking to her and I thought for some stupid reason that she might be interested in me. That was until she took off with the 'other guy'. More or less a waivey haired twit of a law student which really is no big deal in this country as it is an undergraduate degree that produces about 500million graduates annually.

 

He'll graduate and get a job not so different to mine or he'll go to a top firm and make a lot more. He wasn't going to take her seriously. He was a pretty boy with rich parents studying law. She was chubby, stocky, and had crooked teeth. But I liked her and she was attractive.

 

I don't even know where this is supposed to end it seems every single time I show some sort of interest in a girl she takes off with someone else or rejects me. I think that they don't even want to do anything that will be good for them. That guy will not go anywhere with her. She basically just destroyed any chance of something happening that might have been good.

 

I don't like women most of the time.I feel like now is a good time to give up again and stop trying. What a waste of time girls are !

[LBP]

You just met this girl... Not only that, but you think she's stumpy and has crooked teeth. How is it possible for you to know what could and could not have been good for one or both of you? Maybe this twit you're referring to is her soul mate. The truth is that you don't know. Astonishingly illogical thought process.

 

You know what your issues are. What's baffling is that you refuse to correct them. All this judgmental rage is wholly counter-productive.

 

Judging someone on their degree is about as superficial as (supposedly) the 'waste of time' women that you claim to hate, yet continue to lust after.

[CaptainPlanet]

1) There always has to be a first meeting.

 

2) The earlier the better otherwise you become friends.

 

3) 45 minutes is more than enough time to decide if you like someone sexually and want to take it to the next level i.e a date.

 

4) Getting to know someone is about the worst method of dating.

 

5) I have been around long enough to know when something will and won't work out. He was using her and looking for a quick thing. Best case scenario, three months they break up and she starts hatiing men. That is utter best case scenario imaginable.

[Daligal83]

CP, you always talk as if you have the whole dating game completely figured out. If this were true, you wouldn't be so frustrated. Try listening to the advice people give you instead of telling them that they are wrong.

[annie24]

i agree with daligirl - if you had things figured out, you wouldn't be frustrated! you don't know what the backstory is with this girl and this guy. maybe they arrived at the party together, or maybe they have been flirting for a few weeks? or maybe he was just more forward than you are. it seems like you are basing the situation on your own insecurities.

[savignon]

Perhaps your judgement about girls being "a waste of time" and other guys being "twits" are more evident than you think. When men really hate women, it's easy to read even if they're trying to fake it. Assuming what's going to happen between the 2 of them for the next 3 months is pretty arrogant and off-putting in my opinion. To assume she'll end up hating men is a clear projection since you hate women. I would certainly regret going home with someone who would've referred to me as "chubby, stocky and had crooked teeth". Maybe the other guy wasn't such a hater.

[jenny_mcs]

yeah, I agree with the others. I think your insecurity about your education, frustration with your employment situation and fear of women all just comes pouring off of you in all your posts, and most likely does in real life too.

[Nutz]

Is it just me or does CP needs professional help?

 

 

Dude, women aren't out to get you. Yes they can be flighty and immature a lot of times, and I know first hand how guys can get get jaded and distraught by how fickle they can be, but you can't put all the blame on them. One thing I learned along the way is if a woman you're interested in who you think likes you back ends up with some other guy, it's because you messed up (and usually it boils down to failing to pull the trigger). Women deep down want to be lead. You have to take charge of your life and not be afraid to go out and grab what you want. When you realize that only then will you be able to fully understand that your happiness is truly up to you. Take responsibility and go out and find your own happiness. If you feel you need help improving your skills with getting women, there are plenty of resources available to you these days. Hit my blog in my signature and check out some of the links. Lots of stuff there you can use too.

[servedcold]

Most women who have active social lives have several guys after them at any given time. That's a given reality. Energy you spend even caring about some wavy haired twit of a law student that she left with could have been spent hitting on another woman.

 

Try not to take the initial chase part personally, there are plenty of legitimate things to take personally after you actually get involved with a woman that you can develop truly righteous anger over down the road a piece , but to eventually get to that higher level of truly satisfying black raging bile anger, you have to get a girl first, and keep her long enough to begin to trust her.

 

You do want to be as angry as you possibly can be, right? Then work towards that goal by hitting on women constantly, the gift of true rage is just around the corner for you if you can stop worrying about wavy haired twits.

[Miss Firecracker]

CaptainPlanet,

 

Maybe the other guy asked the girl to go somewhere with him. Maybe you should have done that before he did instead of just talking and talking and talking. If you didn't ask her out, I'm glad someone else did.

[CaptainPlanet]

CaptainPlanet,

 

Maybe the other guy asked the girl to go somewhere with him. Maybe you should have done that before he did instead of just talking and talking and talking. If you didn't ask her out, I'm glad someone else did.

 

She wasn't some little kid that needs to be asked to 'go for a walk' she needs to give you a signal before you can do that, usually the girl has to initiate that sort of thing.

 

There was no opportunity to ask her out she made the decision. What was I supposed to do ? Announce it to her and everyone else standing around talking.

[ghost69]

why are you so mad man? one girl. sounds to me like you lost the opportunity. girls don't usually initiate anything but a look at you.

[Dubb]

She wasn't some little kid that needs to be asked to 'go for a walk' she needs to give you a signal before you can do that, usually the girl has to initiate that sort of thing.

 

There was no opportunity to ask her out she made the decision. What was I supposed to do ? Announce it to her and everyone else standing around talking.

 

I think you need to start learning to not be so angry. No women should ever decide your happiness, so stop being so dependent on the outcome. She's not going to give you any signals if you're not doing the right things. What signals are you looking for? Normally they are small. She may keep you there as a time filler or to be nice. You're doing something wrong. Probably a lot of things. Realize that you can learn and move past this. Focus your energy into figuring out where you went wrong. Were you being some unique, interesting, funny, outgoing guy who was building attraction with her or were you just another boring guy trying to get in her pants? Did you try to escalate with her?

[CaptainPlanet]

I think you need to start learning to not be so angry. No women should ever decide your happiness, so stop being so dependent on the outcome. She's not going to give you any signals if you're not doing the right things. What signals are you looking for? Normally they are small. She may keep you there as a time filler or to be nice. You're doing something wrong. Probably a lot of things. Realize that you can learn and move past this. Focus your energy into figuring out where you went wrong. Were you being some unique, interesting, funny, outgoing guy who was building attraction with her or were you just another boring guy trying to get in her pants? Did you try to escalate with her?

 

Normally, a good signal is that they don't go and make out with someone else. Again, they'll give you an opportunity if interested.

[epsilon2x]

1) There always has to be a first meeting.

 

2) The earlier the better otherwise you become friends.

 

3) 45 minutes is more than enough time to decide if you like someone sexually and want to take it to the next level i.e a date.

 

4) Getting to know someone is about the worst method of dating.

 

5) I have been around long enough to know when something will and won't work out. He was using her and looking for a quick thing. Best case scenario, three months they break up and she starts hatiing men. That is utter best case scenario imaginable.

 

So what if it was going to be a quick fling. Who's to say that she didn't want a hook up either. If a girl run's away with another guy instead of you, don't bash him. Analyze what it was that he offered that you didn't.

 

How can you talk to someone for a few minutes, decides she fat and has bad teeth, then be so mad that you didn't get her. You didn't know her long enough to know what she was really like and her physical appearance wasn't so appealing. I don't see what you're getting at.

[Snoopy24]

Maybe she took off with the other guy, bc he wasn't so judgmental and negative as you. You are constantly saying how do dont bring this negativity in real life, but I can't see how you couldn't. You seem to hate everyone, and everything around you.

 

If you aren't getting dates, maybe it's time to change your attitude about life in general.

 

Get some help.

[Dubb]

Normally, a good signal is that they don't go and make out with someone else. Again, they'll give you an opportunity if interested.

 

So you're saying that they will make the move? I have had this happen but why wait on them? Make the move. Be the man. Most women are too shy to make the first move.

[jengh]

Maybe she took off with the other guy, bc he wasn't so judgmental and negative as you. You are constantly saying how do dont bring this negativity in real life, but I can't see how you couldn't. You seem to hate everyone, and everything around you.

 

If you aren't getting dates, maybe it's time to change your attitude about life in general.

 

Get some help.

 

Completely agree! This should tell you something!

[bulletproof]

You need professional help, honestly. Your anger towards the world and specifically women is really hurting you. Basically you get what you give and all of your posts are so negative, self-centered and judgmental that I can only imagine what you're like in real life.

 

Seriously, listen to what people are telling you here. You've got a problem.

[Miss Firecracker]

She wasn't some little kid that needs to be asked to 'go for a walk' she needs to give you a signal before you can do that, usually the girl has to initiate that sort of thing.

 

CP said, "That was until I talked to a girl who sent me signals with her pretty eyes and with just about everything else."

 

You should have made your move!!

[CaptainPlanet]

You need professional help, honestly. Your anger towards the world and specifically women is really hurting you. Basically you get what you give and all of your posts are so negative, self-centered and judgmental that I can only imagine what you're like in real life.

 

Seriously, listen to what people are telling you here. You've got a problem.

 

Look, I'm not American so I don't get this whole ultra positivity thing that you guys seem to think makes the world go round. A cool chick rejected me, she wasn't some teenager after a fling, she was just an idiot.

 

What self respecting adult goes out and pashes with some random instead of trying to form the basis of a stable relationship. What happened was simply stupid on her part. Does she think that she will be young and desirable forever ?

 

In 7 years time I will still be able to hit on and pick up girls in their mid 20's and in 7 years time she won't be in her mid 20's and her options will have greatly diminished for a number of reasons. I mean it is just so annoying to listen to women carry on about how certain things matter and that they want x and y but then they go and do z. You are left scratching your head in wonderment. Yes I don't like women very much in terms of trying to form sexual relationships with them in fact the further I go through life the more I decide that is not what I want. I am definitely leaning towards paying for sex as a supplement.

 

Before you go on a tirade about how prostitution is this and that and how it will come into your home and steal your TV I'll just say this. NO ! you are wrong, this is not the US - I live in Australia, where things are very, very different.

 

Now to address the other point that was made repeatedly. Where did I say there was anything I found wrong with her appearance ? She has those characteristics, I was describing her. Its called being honest. You know, that thing you girls always say is so important ?

 

Secondly I am not shallow. The girl I am with does not have to be picture perfect. To me crooked teeth and bit of body fat is not a turn off but vanity is apparently you seem to appreciate vanity. As you cannot accept the slightest criticism of another persons physique. Doesn't worry me as long as I find her attractive.

[Bartok]

Look, I'm not American so I don't get this whole ultra positivity thing that you guys seem to think makes the world go round.

I used to think like you, but here's the thing - nobody likes a negative person. Everybody likes a positive person.

 

I understand how you feel, but if you look upward and onward rather than downward and backward, you'll be alot better off.

[servedcold]

Look, I'm not American so I don't get this whole ultra positivity thing that you guys seem to think makes the world go round.

 

Guilty as charged, there, but you have to remember, many of the people who come here have lives that are already brimming with negativity and are reaching out for a beam o sunshine from somewhere. Consider checking out some of the donjuan or sosoave type forums, Nutz has one with the sig in his thread if you want to talk strictly about meeting women, ENA is not going to be so helpful with that.

 

Consider not worrying about given realities that you can't control. The measure of a man is to work with what he is given and change the environment into one favorable to him. Nothing wrong with venting, but it saps energy that could be productively applied elsewhere. Your focus seems to be less on getting a girl and more on denouncing unfairness. Nothing at all wrong with that, especially here, but to make change and progress, you are going to eventually need to sharpen your focus and stop hassling with externals out of your control.

 

In other words, who cares where this particular girl will be in seven years compared to you as options are concerned? Does that kind of thinking land a girl in your lap NOW? No. Put the blinders on and focus on what you want, then achieve that through execution of a measured plan free of distraction.

 

Be very careful with prostitution, and without talking about morals, it is very dangerous. The business model of prostitution is to strip someone of their assets entirely in any way possible, legal, illegal or violent, regardless of how the process starts. It is truly a gateway to a life of misery and breeds on misery. It is run by people who, once they have you in the system, have the single goal of owning you outright as a human slave. Sounds melodramatic, it's just a lay right? but have seen it ruin the lives of otherwise normal men irretrievably.

[JadedStar]

Look, I'm not American so I don't get this whole ultra positivity thing that you guys seem to think makes the world go round. A cool chick rejected me, she wasn't some teenager after a fling, she was just an idiot.

 

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She was stupid because she didn't leave wtih you (when you never even asked her out) and instead went with someone else, and you don't even have any idea what their relationship is? Not continuing to talk to you, makes her stupid? Just clarifying that i am reading this all correctly.

 

To be honest, I'd be afraid to meet you in person because you sound really unstable in many of your posts, and this girl might have gotten a vibe off of you to the point she decided she would go with anyone else to get away.

 

I agree with those who suggested therapy. Your attitude is far worse than just some negative outlook - it is seriously angry and self entitled and many of your past posts were just plain outright alarming and disturbing. I don't say that to be mean, it is my honest assessment. This isn't about you not having a 'sunshiney' enough view on things..it goes way way beyond that.

[Dubb]

CP, you need help man. Some inner game would go a long way.