MushroomGod Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Why do people beg and plead to their ex? I've done it before but I dunno why. Why aren't ppl angry about the break up and stand up for themselves declaring that they don't deserve to be treated this way? Unless its a dealbreaker it may be a lack of respect at least if the dumpee is a man. All the common mistakes just don't seem logical. Unless it was your first break up ever why do people keep making these mistakes? Link to comment
soulmeetsbody Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Rejection is a very painful feeling, often the immediate fear of being alone and rejected are much much stronger than self respect? Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Why do people beg and plead to their ex? Why aren't ppl angry about the break up and stand up for themselves declaring that they don't deserve to be treated this way? why do people keep making these mistakes? Get off the Shrooms. Just Kidding but you asked for it., did them in college. Answer Lonliness, Insecuruty, Fear of self, Fear of the unknown, Fear of responsibility. I can go on on for days at an adequate rate Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 It comes from a sense of panic...panic of losing someone you care about, panic of being alone. In the stages of loss, bargaining is one of the stages so that even extends to the break up of a relationship. This is what would be considered the bargaining stage...and denial. Some people do the bargaining stage privately by frantically running to the gym and making huge changes in themself in the hopes the ex will see and take them back. Others bargain directly to the ex by pleading their case. Link to comment
top bloke Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Its because they leave a feeling of emptiness when theyre gone after being so close for so long...its a natural response to miss them.. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted March 15, 2009 Author Share Posted March 15, 2009 Rejection is a very painful feeling, often the immediate fear of being alone and rejected are much much stronger than self respect? Get off the Shrooms. Just Kidding but you asked for it., did them in college. Answer Lonliness, Insecuruty, Fear of self, Fear of the unknown, Fear of responsibility. I can go on on for days at an adequate rate My recent GF just broke up with me a week ago and I'm very broken up about it. That, however, makes me angry with her not apologetic. Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Why so angry? Was it really her? Why not just let it go? Today? Self based or love based? Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 I feel disgusted and you should too. Just having fun. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted March 15, 2009 Author Share Posted March 15, 2009 Why so angry? Was it really her? Why not just let it go? Today? Self based or love based? Yes it was her. There was no dealbreaker on my part, nothing that made me think she wanted to break up with me. As how its based? maybe both. Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Best of luck to you. You do not have much flexibility outside of doing the right thing. Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Hi, i feel thaf it def comes down to rejection. It has been 1month since my bf broke up with me and it still hurts like hell. I have done the texting, ringing and facebook. Setting myself up for more rejection when he ignores me. Anger has now set in with me. Felt tho that i couldnt get angry with hin initially because he looked liked a broken man, had a lot of incertainties going on. Ready to face him with my angry approach lol. Link to comment
Elsewhere Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 I was thinking the same! Do they really think begging is going to change the dumpers mind? It will only convince him in his decision (you beg => your value must be little). Although I was doing it recently myself and my reasons were: -I felt like I screwed up* and needed a lesson. So now that I learned my lesson I'll be good - so "please give me another chance" -my life was so miserable** before him I was paranoid to think of going back there *oh no I didn't, HE screwed me up big time I was just camouflaging it ** it was miserable with him to because of how he treated me but better to have someone around than nobody I now can say that after yesterdays lonely saturday night, I feel like begging again.... Oh and anger stage comes for me now after I've gotten over him a bit. Only now I see all the crap that I was blind to, now things are clear and he soooo disrespected me!!! Link to comment
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