bertdru Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 I am from India. While I was growing up, my father has never spoken to me about sex or sex related things. He has not talked about girls to me EVER. Whenever there is a sex related joke on tv(when I am in the room), he doesn't laugh. He quickly changes the channel if a sex or nude scene comes on TV. Is this normal? My father never told me anything about sex anyway. Sure that's the way here but I still thought it was extremely weird. Link to comment
CAgirl Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 It's very normal. I don't think I've ever spoken to my father about sex in all 19 years of my life aside from him telling me to not get pregnant. Link to comment
Rosee Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Plenty of parents aren't open with their kids about sex. Mine certainly weren't, I don't think they talked about the birds and bees with me ever. Link to comment
bms85 Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 My Indian friends say their parents are really awkward with them about sexual topics. Coincidentally they asked me the same question back in high school. Maybe its a cultural thing? My parents had the sex talk with me. It was awkward and long after I had already lost my virginity. You're not missing anything great. I'd probably prefer my father changing the channel on sex scenes over the crude remarks he makes about them. Link to comment
jenny_mcs Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 I am from India. While I was growing up, my father has never spoken to me about sex or sex related things. He has not talked about girls to me EVER. Whenever there is a sex related joke on tv(when I am in the room), he doesn't laugh. He quickly changes the channel if a sex or nude scene comes on TV. Is this normal? My father never told me anything about sex anyway. Sure that's the way here but I still thought it was extremely weird. Nope, not weird at all. My parents didn't talk to me about sex, and I can't imagine watching a sex scene in a movie with them in the same room! And I managed to turn out with a healthy attitude towards sex and relationships. Link to comment
metallica19 Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 what I learned about sex was from school....your deff not alone Link to comment
shikashika Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 My parents told me about sex when I was 3 or 4 years old. Maybe it's cultural, I wouldn't know. That doesn't mean my parents were liberal and would get me birth control pills and let boys sleep over... even when I was in my twenties and had a serious relationship. But no, my parents told me about sex at a very young age. Link to comment
GoneCrazy Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Nope, not weird at all. My parents didn't talk to me about sex, and I can't imagine watching a sex scene in a movie with them in the same room! And I managed to turn out with a healthy attitude towards sex and relationships. Same here there is nothing more awkward then that lol. Link to comment
lost1607307474 Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 I think it is very normal for parents to be embarrassed about talking to their children about sex. However, I am a strong believer in parents taking action to inform their kids about sex and sex-related issues. You said 'when you were growing up' - how old are you? Are you still looking for information/ advice about sex? Link to comment
Seymore Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 My dad was always into computers. He got me into computers. When I turned 12, I could tell he was too uncomfortable to have "the talk", so he put a computer program on the computer to teach me. One day the program just mysteriously appeared, lol. Link to comment
lost1607307474 Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 My dad was always into computers. He got me into computers. When I turned 12, I could tell he was too uncomfortable to have "the talk", so he put a computer program on the computer to teach me. One day the program just mysteriously appeared, lol. lol aw this is kinda cute. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 I am from India. While I was growing up, my father has never spoken to me about sex or sex related things. He has not talked about girls to me EVER. Whenever there is a sex related joke on tv(when I am in the room), he doesn't laugh. He quickly changes the channel if a sex or nude scene comes on TV. Is this normal? My father never told me anything about sex anyway. Sure that's the way here but I still thought it was extremely weird. Funny. I read the title and was about to say "my parents never did either". Then I saw you're from India. My dad is too (and the rest of my family). Coming from an Indian family I think it's kind of "normal" that they don't openly speak of sex. As far as I've seen most girls are expected to remain virgins till marriage. And if they do have sex it's all kept a bit hush hush. But... I think Indian or not, usually dad's won't easily talk to their daughter about sex. It's just... akward. Now dads and sons: I've seen my (male) cousins open up ALOT to their dad. And other male cousins who did not. Link to comment
bertdru Posted March 17, 2009 Author Share Posted March 17, 2009 Funny. I read the title and was about to say "my parents never did either". Then I saw you're from India. My dad is too (and the rest of my family). Coming from an Indian family I think it's kind of "normal" that they don't openly speak of sex. As far as I've seen most girls are expected to remain virgins till marriage. And if they do have sex it's all kept a bit hush hush. But... I think Indian or not, usually dad's won't easily talk to their daughter about sex. It's just... akward. Now dads and sons: I've seen my (male) cousins open up ALOT to their dad. And other male cousins who did not. Well I am a guy. I may have opened up to my dad(if he was ok with it) but my dad behaves as if sex doesn't exist in our world. I guess I am too old to discuss sex with my dad anyway(I am 24). Still I just thought it was weird. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted March 22, 2009 Share Posted March 22, 2009 Yea sex topic is kinda awkward. In school all you learn is about the egg and the sperm cell joining in together but never really the how it happens process. All that my mom told me before I lost my virginity was to make sure he wears protection. At first she did not wanted to talk about it since she never really like him. Then afterwards she explained some stuff. As for my dad, hardly anything at all besides the ''Was it with protection'' and then he didn't wanna hear about it once mom and started talking about it. Link to comment
jackie100 Posted March 22, 2009 Share Posted March 22, 2009 My mom never talked to me about sex either. I am 30 now and of course I know everything about sex now, it's just one more reason to be resentful of my mother due to bad parenting skills. I wish I had a mother who knew how to communicate effectively, instead I got an uptight mother with hang-ups about sex who did not know how to to conversate with her daughter. It's just one more reason why I have a lot of bitterness about her. The sex is just one small thing though, there are many other reasons why I find her parenting not as good as other mothers. I guess I lucked out in life (in a bad way, not in a good way), with the mother I got. Link to comment
jengh Posted March 22, 2009 Share Posted March 22, 2009 My parents NEVER gave me the sex talk. My mom sort of mentioned it when she put me on the pill...but not really. My friend's mom, on the other hand, bought her a book "All About Sex" when we were in elementary school. I remember, after her mom would go to bed, we'd sneak and get the book and look at it in awe Link to comment
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