CoolWhip Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 I usually dont last very long in bed, so i dont tell her when i've cum, we keep going even tho i'm limp and she doesn't know. Eventually i tell her im gonna cum and fake it. I always use a condom, but i'm worried it will slip off coz im flacid. I need to know how i can last longer? I've tried focusing on something else but i can't take my attention off the feeling. I've tried relaxing, i can do it when i get a handjob but i can't in sex. We're both inexperienced and she can't go on the pill and pregnancy really really isn't an option. First thread by the way Link to comment
EQD Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 you arent supposed to cum in a condom and keep screwing until you get too limp to screw some more. it causes pregnancy. the cum can leak out of the base because your penis is getting flaccid. Link to comment
EQD Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 they have desensitizing lube and such at sex stores and walmart also.. and special condoms that help you last longer. Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Welcome to ENA. Does she let you finish inside her? If not, then you shouldn't be lying to her about it. There's a chance the condom can rip, or the sperm can squeeze out of the condom while you're still inside her & impregnate her. It wouldn't be fair to her if she didn't know about it. Link to comment
CoolWhip Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 Welcome to ENA. Does she let you finish inside her? yer she does, thanks for the welcome! Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 I don't understand how you can be limp and not slip out and she doesn't notice Yes, it can leak and get her pregnant. A friend of mine tried a desensitizing condom, and it made it so he couldn't feel anything. He couldn't even finish having sex with his girlfriend. Try taking care of yourself before hand and see if that helps. If not, can you go again pretty quickly and last longer that second time? Foreplay would be pretty important. If she has an orgasm before the main event, it will be a lot less frustrating if you finish too early. Link to comment
CoolWhip Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 yer, we usually have atleast 2 hours of foreplay, and she cums anywhere for 3-5 times before we have sex. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Im puzzled...I know this doesn't answer your question but how in the world does she NOT know you went limp? If my SO went limp & was finished I would know right away, there's a BIG difference between him being hard & him being limp lol. Link to comment
Davie Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Don't try concentrating on other stuff. Just keep trying Get out when you're done!!! I can't stress that enough. Just talk to her and explain, if you're having sex she must have feelings for you. She'll understand. Especially if she is also inexperianced. I reccomend you explain the case to her and if it lasts 2 minutes every night then fine. You'll gain more control as you go Just practice Good luck my friend! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 you probably don't last long because your foreplay is so long. you are too turned on at that point. and doing keep bangin with the condom on after finishing. you are just packing your juices in there. i've had them fall off, break, and such and even that is scary. you are taking a huge risk. Link to comment
CoolWhip Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 i know it's a risk, thats why im asking. i want to stop. with the desensitizing condoms, i heard that they desensitize the girl a little aswell. is that true? Link to comment
amipushy Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 I'd tell her the truth, its not a bad thing to get so turn on, its almost a compliment. And the reason I'd tell her is 1) because of the risk invloved of pregnancy and 2) so you can get to cum during a BJ or a handjob from her and finish off inside her on your second go. How long is not long exactly? I know men feel proud of going for hours and hours but it really isnt necessary -Other women might feel different but for me half hour or so in different positions is more than enough especially if I have cum a few times already. Link to comment
CoolWhip Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 not long is a couple minutes or less. Sometimes less than a minute Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Why dont you cut the foreplay down to like, 20mins? Then have sex...see how long it lasts. I dont know how someone can go 2-3hrs of foreplay each time, but that's just me lol. Link to comment
CoolWhip Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 oh, i forgot to mention. we only get to do it once a week or less. so we usually go for it nonstop, until we can't anymore when we get the chance. thats why im so disapointed i cant last longer Link to comment
girl68 Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 First question why is the pill "not an option"? Birth control should always be an option. Expecially if condoms is the only method because you're not even using those correctly. Which voids it's purpose. Perhaps 2 hours of foreplay works you up way too close to blowing your load so sex IS the climax and therefore you blow your load right away. Try keeping the foreplay to much less. I've tried de-sensitizing lube and it didn't have an effect on me. And don't think that the "more the better". No, the more the worse you won't feel ANYTHING. Perhaps it is a combination of using LESS foreplay, masterbating more (a few hrs before you get it on), and using some de-sensitizing lube. And faking your orgasm is weak. How would you feel is those 4-5 ogasms she was having each session have all been faked? You wouldn't feel so hot now would ya? Link to comment
amipushy Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Sort yourself out before meeting up. It will take the edge off it and make you last longer. Link to comment
Knead2Know Posted March 14, 2009 Share Posted March 14, 2009 I love that phrase "sort yourself out".... That works, having an initial orgasm prior can help...however one thing that helps ALL men maintain an erection longer is kegel exercises for men... Kegels, google it and you can start exercising..it definitely helps you last longer and control your erection over all... Link to comment
rivercitystein Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Let her know when you are getting close to cumming. Ask her to slow down & you do the same. This would be a good time to maybe switch positions. Sometimes just a small break from the momentum will help you last longer. Link to comment
jstaman Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 If you are only able to have sex with her once a week this too is adding to your issue. If I am away from my SO for a while like on a business trip by the time I come back home I am so worked up to see her it takes very little to make me climax. I know you cant change this, but try making yourself climax before hand. Usually for most men I think, including me after the first climax when you get it up again you can usually go for a much longer time. I have done this and just had to look at her and say "I gotta stop, I cant go any more" to which she sometimes replys, you get on bottom I'll do the work" Give this a try. If you are all worked up and exited about seeing her and having intercourse with her you are going to cum faster. So do your business before hand, wait till she is there, let her help you get your erection back and then try it. And as was said before dont keep going once you have came in the condom it is kind of dangerous. Hope this helps Link to comment
sirhcorg Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Masturbate more. The more you do it (every couple days, every day, every couple hours), your penis will start to desensitize. Another options: try masturbating right before you have sex (sounds stupid but if you want to last longer in bed then it works). Also, when you're having sex, count numbers in your head. It keeps your mind of the things. Also have a funny conversation. I always do when the girl is on top and they all think it's fun and funny. Another option is stress yourself. If you relax too much, it might make you orgasm faster. Those work for me and I usually last over an hour. Link to comment
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