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Just a little poll... sure this has been done before...

 

This guy I am seeing is kind of shy and I am definitely NOT shy. I've slept with VERY few people but I am sexual uninhibited once I feel comfortable enough to sleep with someone. Anyway, I love talking dirty... when I asked this guy I've seeing what he thought he said he liked it but sometimes I sound like a porn star.

 

I am not doing it on purpose... it's just a turn on to me! For example, I asked him what other girls would say if they wanted to get on top or something and he said they would just do it or not say anything. I, on the other hand, say something like, "I wanna ride your c---"...

 

So, what do ya'll say --- turn on or turn off?

 

Obviously I am comfortable with the way I am and I'm not going to change, I am just curious... and also I don't do it ALL the time..

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Its ok to do it all the time!

 

Tell them what you wanna feel, what you wanna do. Use dirty words, or don't. Just don't use medical terms or baby terms either.

"I want your wee wee in my hoo hoo" yeah no.

"I can't wait to feel your pen*s in my v*gina." no, not that either.

 

"I can't wait to feel your smooth ___ up against my ___" use good adjectives. and urgency in one's voice works too.

 

i think dirty talk is such a hard subject to talk about because it is private and its different for everyone @ different points in a relationship.

I was with someone who the first few months, he was nervous and shaky and would use technical terms. I would just throw out the naughty words and slowly, he loosened up. I was with someone else and first night, he threw it out there and it was hot.

 

Its different with everyone...

start slow... "I can't wait to feel you inside me" or something isn't too dirty. if the other person makes a face like their freaked, stop and keep the pillow talk to a minimum then.

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LOL. Reminds me of when I began getting intimate with my bf. And I used the p (kitty) word. He laughed! I was trying to sound sexy.

I guess he just wasn't used to hearing it. Now he likes it. And I can see he gets really turned on if I whisper things I want him to do or what he is doing to me at that moment.

 

I think there's nothing wrong with taking a lesson or 2 from porn stars when it comes to dirty talk. As long as you're not faking like them and don't sound TOO much like them. Mix it up with some of the porn star talk with your own.

 

If he's not ready for the dirty talk maybe just keep it to loud moaning and other less "dirty" sounding things till he's more comfy.

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My preference is to not have the dirty talking. If anything, it puts me off. If a girl says, "Kiss me, kiss me", or "Oh that feels so good," there there isn't a problem. But for me, once swearing comes into it... "F*** me your stud," "F*** me harder" or "Shove that c*** into me hard", as examples, it just seems to put me off my game.

 

I guess it comes down to the individual.

 

I also think that if sex with my SO is to stay at an Intimate and connected level, it can't sound like a porn movie. Oh, and I must say, that annoys me in a porn movie too. Shut up and just moan... it's the moaning that does it for me...

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My preference is to not have the dirty talking. If anything, it puts me off. If a girl says, "Kiss me, kiss me", or "Oh that feels so good," there there isn't a problem. But for me, once swearing comes into it... "F*** me your stud," "F*** me harder" or "Shove that c*** into me hard", as examples, it just seems to put me off my game.

 

I guess it comes down to the individual.

 

I also think that if sex with my SO is to stay at an Intimate and connected level, it can't sound like a porn movie. Oh, and I must say, that annoys me in a porn movie too. Shut up and just moan... it's the moaning that does it for me...

 

Oh yea.. Gotta agree with you about toning down swear words. I don't mind stuff like and D...

But I'm sure some guys would love the cursing haha.

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maybe you should start with "softer" dirty talk when it comes to him, since he's shy.

 

It has a lot to do with trust/communication in a couple. When I first started dating my guy, he wouldn't talk dirty, in general wasn't adventurous. Now after a bit of encouragement I can't believe the filth that comes out of his mouth! lol

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lol I think it's sexy! if you are being spontanious and are comfortable that way, I definitelly think it would be a huge turn on. personally I am the same. once I get comfortable with the relationship. I won't say something like that the first time we sleep together though lol.

so unless it's an issue for him, where's the harm.

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