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alona125

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Hey all,

 

I need some advice on how to deal with a friend of mine.

During the week we don't text too much, but we usually see each other on most weekends usually on a friday or Saturday.

 

It seems that when I text her during the week to say "hi" or see how she's doing, on most occassions it takes her a few hours to respond. She has a 2 year old and an 8 year old in school, but should it really take someone that long to respond?

 

I guess I'm asking this because I'm a lot younger and inexperienced than she is in many aspects of life and feel Im more of a bother than a good friend she can talk to, etc.. She's always asking me to hang with them on the weekend, but I feel like I just stand around while she makes these amazing dinners (she never needs help when i ask) and i dont always know what to talk about.

 

When it takes her a long time to text me back and we rarely talk during the week should I just let her be the one to initiate contact with me. I just don't want to be a bother. =(

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Only a few hours? I sometimes take all day before responding to my friends & I dont have children to take care of.

 

I doubt you are a bother, she asks you to hang out & DOES respond to your text.

 

I think you might be worrying alittle too much.

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Honestly I wouldn't worry much at this point. Sometimes when I receive a text message or whatever, if I'm busy at the moment I get it, I'll either ignore it till I'm free, or I'll give it a quick glance but put my phone away till I'm in a position to respond. If I do give it a quick glance then put it away, then yeah, sometimes I forget to reply later because I've technically looked at the message so it doesn't sit there waiting for me to look at it haha.

 

So again, don't worry about anything just based on that, especially when the other person has two kids.

 

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first of all, i absolutely hate people that just text:

 

-hi

-whats up?

-hey you

 

ETC. so annoying. i'm busy during the week, i may not even get back to you tomorrow. especially if i have a school project. you are a friend, not a bf. it should be more casual.

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I think you're overreacting. If she just WASN'T texting back EVER, that would tell me you're a nuisance. However, the fact that she does respond a few hours later tells me she's just busy. She probably doesn't have her phone on her person at all times like some people do. As you said, she has two children to run around after. Don't worry--she enjoys your company and wants to hang out on weekends still. Nothing about your post gave me a bad vibe.

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first of all, i absolutely hate people that just text:

 

-hi

-whats up?

-hey you

 

ETC. so annoying. i'm busy during the week, i may not even get back to you tomorrow. especially if i have a school project. you are a friend, not a bf. it should be more casual.

 

Oh yeah!! Big pet peeve of mine!!! Unless you have something worthwhile to say, don't just text "hi" and expect a response. asklfjdsal;kj

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Oh yeah!! Big pet peeve of mine!!! Unless you have something worthwhile to say, don't just text "hi" and expect a response. asklfjdsal;kj

 

it's even worse when it's a number i do not have programmed in my phone. they assume i know who they are too. if you have never texted or called me, say who you are. eesh

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it's even worse when it's a number i do not have programmed in my phone. they assume i know who they are too. if you have never texted or called me, say who you are. eesh

 

hahahaha, YES! Happens all the time. Especially after a night out of quite heavy drinking...the next day... 616-xxx-xxxx: Hi

 

Who the f are youuuuu? If I meet you while drunk, chances are I don't want to meet you while sober. Buzz off.

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Only a few hours? I sometimes take all day before responding to my friends & I dont have children to take care of.

 

I doubt you are a bother, she asks you to hang out & DOES respond to your text.

 

I think you might be worrying alittle too much.

 

me too.... I just don't get around to it sometimes..

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I hate texting, so I cancelled that service and the Internet access on my phone. I honestly wish there was no such thing as texting. My husband's sister never called us, just text messaged. This reminds me to break the news to her. Less of my money, less of my time.

 

Even if I really, really like someone, I do NOT want to text them.

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it takes a long time for people to text back, myself included, for all sorts of reasons... maybe they don't have their cell phone on, their text box is full, they really are busy but that doesn't mean its anything personal. i wouldn't read too much into it if i were you.

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That's the whole point of texting... that you text back when you can or want to. When you receive a text it doesn't mean you have to reply instantly.

 

funny you mention this because I had made plans to meet up with a guy this weekend. We made plans to meet up at a certain time at a certain place on Friday.

 

Well, we texted a bit throughout Thursday, then after work, I go on my bike and rode home as I always do, stopping at the grocery store on the way home.

 

When I got home, I noticed he had texted three times,

 

the first one:

 

"Hey, what you doing?" ( first of all..god that was annoying... what's the point)

 

the second one:

 

"Do you still want to catch up tomorrow?"

 

 

the third one:

 

"Hey if you don't to meet up with me, just let me know instead of ignoring me"

 

Good god, as if I want to meet up with him now. These were all sent with an hour and a half with each other as i was leaving work and going home.

 

ugh.

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