JohnGalt Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 JG, wouldn't you be automatically untagged from photos when you de-activated your account? I assume that's the way the facebook software works. Yeah, but on her profile, our pictures are still up even though I'm untagged. What she did was take photos of us completely off of her profile pics section. She left pictures of us up in her regular photo section. I don't know why she did this. Link to comment
majord23 Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 Ah, I see - sorry mate, I misread. Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 JG - Wow things seem to be progressing very nicely, but is it normal that you guys are taking things SO slowly? I mean, only a small kiss? With my ex, I don't know, when we got back together we were absolutely passionate and crazy about eachother. I don't know if it means that slow is better, I'm just curious... I'm almost certain that my ex is not passionate or crazy about me. She clearly loves me very much, but she is uncertain about whether or not she should give me another chance. Of course in our five years together, we've been very passionate and intimate doing just about anything you can think of...but this is about re-developing the attraction and trust that she had for me. Our path right now mirrors how we first go together. Very slowly over a three month period...and then after we got together, it was just insanely fast and passionate. I also think her friends are giving her pause telling her not to get too attached and not to get back together with me, but that's clearly not working. I do feel, however, that if I'm not careful she could at any moment pull back and decide she doesn't want this. The problem is, I feel us falling back in love. I feel myself getting attached again. Sigh... Link to comment
Ashsun87 Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 JohnGalt my friend I am exactly in your situation. "The problem is, I feel us falling back in love. I feel myself getting attached again. Sigh..." I can not agree more with you. I'm afraid of this attachment because it means that I am vulnerable to be hurt again. Me and my ex are also taking things very slowly, but I feel that it is a good thing. I hope so anyway. Keep on doing the damn thing man and I hope things workout for you guys! Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 Thanks Ashsun! Good luck to you too, man! I just talked to the ex...she called me. I asked her about the photos. She said she took some down, no biggie. She said she was in one of her moods. I didn't push the issue. Link to comment
ladylay Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 My female perspective is this: THERE IS NO WAY TO TELL WHAT A GIRL IS THINKING UNLESS YOU ASK. If you don't feel comfortable asking, then you don't have to, but if that is the case than you shouldn't expect to know anything. That being said....you should do what you want to do. If you want to be back together with her than you should go to the movie, you should express that this is what you want as much as you can, you should do all of the things that you failed to do last time you were together. If she is feeling like it is too much for her, or like you two are not on the same page, she will tell you (if she has some sense Of course, if you do this, you have to be prepared to get your feelings hurt...because there is always that possibility, especially if you are not up front with her about what you want and about asking what she wants. If you don't want your feelings hurt...go back to no contact, but I feel like you will always be wondering "what if?" Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 Thanks for your reply. My ex and I are passed the movie part and progressively getting closer to getting back together ( I think) Link to comment
Sparkie Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 The problem is, I feel us falling back in love. I feel myself getting attached again. Sigh... JG, at some point in reconciling properly, you will both need to get 'reattached'. That will require both of you to be vulnerable and trusting of each other. You are the one trying to win her back slowly. So your motives are clear. So you will naturally become 'reattached' first. And she will 'reattach' second. No biggie. I mean, whats the chances of both becoming 'reattached' at exactly the same time? Nil! Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 Update: We're back together. She's been asking to get back together all week and last night, she really broke down and we had a very serious conversation. I'm happy and she's happy. We're going to continue to take things slow and I'll post a separate thread discussing the reconciliation soon. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 OMG John! I'm SO happy for you! Link to comment
Ac143 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Wow, that's awesome. Its always nice to hear good endings! YAY Link to comment
DN Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Congratulations - I hope it all goes well for you. Link to comment
DN Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Congratulations - I hope it all goes well for you. Link to comment
Fionnuala Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Glad to hear it! I'm happy for you, and I hope it all works out well for you two! Link to comment
Fionnuala Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Glad to hear it! I'm happy for you, and I hope it all works out well for you two! Link to comment
longdist Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 That's awesome John. While you're dating, just keep in mind what things were like w/o her whenever you are in an argument, or if you are having trouble in the relationship. Link to comment
kayamoyan Posted April 21, 2009 Share Posted April 21, 2009 awesome JG! very happy for you. true love waits! Link to comment
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