SapphireNoir10 Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Right, to me, kissing is cheating. End of story. Someone im with kisses someone else I'd break up with them. However my mates think thats crazy, several of their boyfriends have kissed other girls and they've taken them back without a second thought saying its not really cheating. So Im curious to see what you think? Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 It's cheating. I don't care if it's a drunk kiss, accident, etc...it's a kiss. Link to comment
amtjrtcet Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Yep...no matter what the excuse, or how drunk or whatever.....he should have known better Link to comment
shemo Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I consider it cheating. For me kissing is a very initimate act... I would not stand for that. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Kissing is NOT cheating? Wow...I know people have different views on cheating but I always thought kissing wasn't even up for discussion? Unless we are talking about a peck on the cheek but making out?...for me its cheating Link to comment
jengh Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Kissing is MOST certainly cheating!!!! I would NOT be happy. In fact, it's partially why my last relationship ended! Link to comment
FortunateOne Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Kissing is the second most intimate physical act a loving couple can share. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Without a doubt, kissing is cheating. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 To me kissing can be even more intimate than sex, i know that sounds crazy, but it is the reason most hookers won't kiss their clients. So whether it is defined as cheating or not, i do not know, but it is a dealbreaker for me. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Interesting poll/question. I had a hard time answering, because I would want to know more about the circumstances of the kiss, and to know how uncharacteristic of him this was. I mean if we were together for years without that kind of thing happening, and something happened along the arc of our relationship where he was a bit "weak" and kissed someone, then regretted it and made up his mind not to slip up like that again, I'd forgive it as a weakness. The stats on couples who have been together for decades is unfortunately that the larger percentage of the time, at least one partner has cheated. Not that I want this or expect it!!!! But in the grand scheme of things, a kiss in a moment of weakness, while disturbing to me and it would take some repair work to trust again, is not the same as full-on sex, or an entire affair. Just as in legal crimes, there are "degrees" to cheating as well. I don't apply a one-size-fits-all to someone. If this was a chronic habit, of course I would end the relationship. I wouldn't even put myself in the situation of being with someone who has habits that would increase the tendency to do this (such as partying and clubbing.) On the other hand, I wouldn't just pass it off "without a second thought" as you say in your OP. And even though I voted for considering it cheating and taking him back, I MIGHT not, depending on circumstantial factors as I said. A lot having to do with how long I've been in this relationship. You'd divorce a man you've loved and been with for 25 years if he just kissed someone, no questions asked? That's how I'm looking at it. Very different from if you've been an item for 4 months and he kissed someone. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 To me kissing can be even more intimate than sex, i know that sounds crazy, but it is the reason most hookers won't kiss their clients. So whether it is defined as cheating or not, i do not know, but it is a dealbreaker for me. Hmmm....I am thinking Julia Roberts in that movie where she was a prostitute! Yes, kissing is most definitely cheating....unless you are an actor/actress in which case it is part of the job in certain scenes they are playing....and even then lots of partners of actors/actresses have a difficult time dealing with their loved one's kissing scenes. Link to comment
alcide Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 It is cheating but i won't actually think i would breakup with them, cause i'm not perfect. Link to comment
FortunateOne Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I'd say from the age of the OP that this is not about a long standing marriage debacle; but, it's about the nascent stages of relationships. Link to comment
SayWhen Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I consider kissing cheating. It is a deal-breaker for me, regardless of the level of sobriety at the time of the kiss. If he had been drinking and kissed someone, I would feel that he should not have been so irresponsible as to get himself into that situation...it certainly is a red flag when that happens. JMHO. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 What about kissing on cheecks? Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I'd say from the age of the OP that this is not about a long standing marriage debacle; but, it's about the nascent stages of relationships. The duration of the relationship isn't indicated in the question, or the poll. It's an absolute question, as I'm reading it. Link to comment
dragon lady Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 What about kissing on cheecks? I think kissing on the cheeks is fine. I greet male and female friends that way. Making out with someone would be a deal breaker for me. I just wouldn't want my man getting intimate with someone else. Link to comment
FortunateOne Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 The duration of the relationship isn't indicated in the question, or the poll. It's an absolute question, as I'm reading it. You're correct on the pure question itself, but on the OP's contextual query it's quite obvious. Link to comment
heatspreader Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Kissing is cheating and I would not want to be with someone who goes around kissing other guys. Link to comment
girl68 Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 It's certainly cheating, but I may or may not stay with him. I voted stay, because in this case with this man I think I would... but I don't know unless thrown in the situation. But yes, it's cheating- and it would be a HUGE problem. Link to comment
Binoo Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Are you kidding?! If I found out my boyfriend kissed another girl, I'd rip his nuts through his nose so he could wear it as a mustache. CHEATER!!! Link to comment
FortunateOne Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Are you kidding?! If I found out my boyfriend kissed another girl, I'd rip his nuts through his nose so he could wear it as a mustache. CHEATER!!! Ouch! LMAO! Link to comment
waveseer Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 It totally depends on his intentions, people can get kissed without their permission. Link to comment
Darkness_Falls Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 It totally depends on his intentions, people can get kissed without their permission. I agree with this. I have gone in for a friendly kiss on the cheek to be met with a kiss on the lips. I backed off as soon as it happened, but it wasn't like making out, it was like a peck? I dunno if that's cheating. Didn't feel like it since I didn't want it and didn't even realise it was going to happen. My bf at the time understood. I would say that making out is cheating 100%. However, me making out with girls is apparently not cheating at all Which I do enjoy. Link to comment
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