thinkorswim Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Phone call: Basically I was told I'm not wanted as a friend for various reasons, mostly unrelated to me personally-just kind of lashing out at how stressful life is in general, saying there's no room for time-consuming friendships, but clearly stating a friendship with me. I was so stunned, I didn't say very much-- felt my head was being bit off. (The plan was to talk about a project I'm working on and the conversation went immediately into a ditch.) Of course after the fact, I can think of so many ways I could have handled the discussion-- with humor, by gently standing up for myself in a non-argumentative way, by being more compassionate and talking about the root problem-- anything other than saying "uh huh.. oh.. but... okay.. uh huh." If someone says they don't want me in their life, well.. is there any point in trying to continue to communicate further? On the other hand, when I called, clearly he was irritable over other things, and I'm not sure if it was more lashing out at me than about me. I'll see this person in a group setting twice a week. Considering we'll be in the same room twice a week... I don't know if I should just let it be and say nothing further-or reply by email ..with a little humor, compassion, etc. I composed the perfect email, but still unsure about sending it. Opinions? Link to comment
Ellie2006 Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 If it were *me,* I would let it go and NOT send the email. [And you're probably right: it's most likely more about them than about you.] Since you will be meeting this person on a regular basis, I would still act cordial BUT I would take a step back from engaging this person any further. Link to comment
loulee Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 If it were *me,* I would let it go and NOT send the email. [And you're probably right: it's most likely more about them than about you.] Since you will be meeting this person on a regular basis, I would still act cordial BUT I would take a step back from engaging this person any further. Agree 100% with this post ..keep your dignity on this one... Link to comment
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