enchanted771 Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 I am talking to this guy (we met once) we both like each other very much. I am doing everything right (look good, laugh, great personality, dress right, etc) only one thing--I dont have enough mystery to me! I know you are supposed to let the guy call you mostly but I struggle with this. I dont appear clingy, but I need to be MORE mysterious. I know your supposed to be less and less available and that is what attracts men to you. But, I wonder what if I make it appear as if I am uninterested? I get totally nervous if I dont call the guy and then I sometimes give in. how do you seem mysterious without doing the opposite harm? I know there are some women who can make it TOO much work for the guy, so I want to stay in the middle! Link to comment
1MoreChance Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 you are or you aren't to them, whatever they percieve. I think you should calculate less and go more with your feeling. Link to comment
Moz Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 Now, that is the million dollar question! Women have pondered this since the dawn of time! I think, speaking as a man, you can either pull that off or you can't. Well, hope the other women here can come up with some great advice. Link to comment
lila... Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 I don't think being mysterious means being less clingy/available, it just means having some kind of charm to you that others can't quite pinpoint. I don't know how to describe it. But one thing you can do is don't reveal too much information about yourself, leave some things unknown, you'll keep the guy wondering and wanting to know more about you. Link to comment
1MoreChance Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 I don't think being mysterious means being less clingy/available, it just means having some kind of charm to you that others can't quite pinpoint. I don't know how to describe it. But one thing you can do is don't reveal too much information about yourself, leave some things unknown, you'll keep the guy wondering and wanting to know more about you. I agree that you shouldn't reveal too much too fast about yourself. but being clingy is something you ARE not something you do. If you are clingy, you must change yourslef from the insude out. because, sooner or later, no matter how much you try to hide your clinginedd, it will reveal itself. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I think you should just be yourself, I don't believe in having to play a "part" for anyone, or for any reason. Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted March 10, 2009 Author Share Posted March 10, 2009 I think you should just be yourself, I don't believe in having to play a "part" for anyone, or for any reason. well then i would be texting everyday which can get quite annoying. i just have to understand that if a man is really into u that he wont lose interest that fast. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I practice what is known as "receptive interest." Read Mars/Venus on a date. It will change your dating life! Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 you are or you aren't to them, whatever they percieve. I think you should calculate less and go more with your feeling. I agree with this. When dating my bf in the beginning, somehow he said I was mysterious to him. I've always been a bit introverted and guarded at times, but I really wasn't making an effort this time to be mysterious. It was all just be not wanting to jump into things with him. It seemed to make him even more intrigued, so it all turned out well I guess. What is the reason you want to be more mysterious? Lol, it may sound like a weird question, but the reason I came off that way was b.c I didn't trust him right away. I'd been hurt so I was taking my time. I didn't want to reveal too much of my past to him either. It really wasn't too relevant anymore and we all do things we later regret. I didn't feel like being judged. Plus I was still trying to figure out if I wanted to date him. We flirted, and talked alot. Texted everyday thru out the day. Yet I didn't say things like "oh I can't wait to kiss you!" or "I really like you". I just let my actions do the talking. Then we finally kissed after alot of dates. Like Bubalu commented, being clingy/needy has nothing to do with not being mysterious. When we where dating, we'd text each other thru out the day. He'd even text me good morning or vice versa, everyday and it was far from annoying to either of us since we where both really interested in getting to know each other. One of the things we unconciously did which was NOT clingy was meeting up once a week for the first 2 months. Some people jump into seeing each other everyday, early in. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 some girls are mysterious, some aren't. sounds like you aren't. don't change unless you want to be and you feel like it would be closer to who you are. Link to comment
1MoreChance Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 some girls are mysterious, some aren't. sounds like you aren't. don't change unless you want to be and you feel like it would be closer to who you are. Ghost, I think it has to do more with whoever is looking AT her. like whoever feels drawn to her may find her mysterious. I don't think she is or isn't . I guess it depends how one defines "mysterious". Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 Ghost, I think it has to do more with whoever is looking AT her. like whoever feels drawn to her may find her mysterious. I don't think she is or isn't . I guess it depends how one defines "mysterious". of course that is another factor. it's all subjective. some say i'm mysterious, some say i look like a player. lol Link to comment
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