EES Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 Some people who know my ex wouldn't be surprised if he got a girlfriend right after we broke up. They've said it, "I wouldn't be surprised" haha. There's a lotta posts about rebound relationships, but what if they DON'T rebound right away? I mean, even his friends think that he would've had another girlfriend by now, judging by his past relationships. I personally think he's just dealing with it better, trying to stay single and work on himself. He used to jump from one girl to the next pretty fast, but my ego likes me to believe that OUR relationship was 'different' and was the most meaningful that he had. Another part of me pathetically thinks, "Oh he's not rebounding because he still cares about me and wants to get back together down the road". Ugh, i'm pms-ing. Sorry guys. haha Link to comment
EES Posted March 9, 2009 Author Share Posted March 9, 2009 p.s. i was his longest girlfriend. He was my first relationship, first love. It lasted about 2.5 years. I'm 20, he's 21. Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 My girlfriend hasn't rebounded yet ( or maybe she has and I don't know), but I figure she's just taking her time and enjoying being single. Same with me. Being in a relationship is a lot of work. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 I think when someone doesn't rebound its because they truly know its over, aren't in denial & want to work on themselves first. I only got into rebounds so I could feel better (short term) get a nice ego boost & probably because I was in denial that my last relationship ended. Its better to stay single & work on yourself first before trying to jump into another relationship that probably wont work anyway. Link to comment
metallica19 Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 my bestfriend's b/f rebounded and screwed a girl 3 week's after they broke up and now he realised he want's to be with her and she wont take him back b/c of what he did with that girl so, Maybe you were different and he just needs some time to get his head straight they broke up after 3 years he might come back Link to comment
Robert013 Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 I am guessing he has matured a bit since before he met you. He is probably just getting himself back together emotionally. I used to be the same way "rebounding", but I changed and needed to get myself back before jumping into something just not to be alone even though I could have easily done this after my most recent breakup. Rebounds are for the weak and an easy way out. He is just doing what a strong individual would do healing alone. Just focus on yourself more and not your ex. Link to comment
BrokenheartUK Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 There's a lotta posts about rebound relationships, but what if they DON'T rebound right away? I mean, even his friends think that he would've had another girlfriend by now, judging by his past relationships. I personally think he's just dealing with it better, trying to stay single and work on himself. He used to jump from one girl to the next pretty fast, but my ego likes me to believe that OUR relationship was 'different' and was the most meaningful that he had. Another part of me pathetically thinks, "Oh he's not rebounding because he still cares about me and wants to get back together down the road". I don't mean to confuse you, but all this applies to me: - I'm staying single to work on myself - I used to jump from girl to girl (I jumped from a 5 year relationship to my most recent one within a month) - My most recent relationship lasted three years less than the one before that, but it meant so much more to me. She was more special and I miss her more than the partner I spent 5 years with. - I do still care about my ex and want to be reconciled in the future after I've worked on myself, whenever that will be. It may not be for years, it may never happen. But it's something that I can't deny I want to occur. Link to comment
EES Posted March 9, 2009 Author Share Posted March 9, 2009 OP here... Thanks for all your replies. And yes, it's all really confusing but what isn't with men and women right? haha I'm definitely doing well on my own =) and working on myself. NC for more than two months now...*phew Link to comment
homeagain Posted March 9, 2009 Share Posted March 9, 2009 i think you have gotten some good advice from the people above... it doesn't matter what or why he is doing anything because you are broken up. all that matters right now is how you take care of yourself! Link to comment
sad_panda Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 A friend told me that sometimes it's even worse to hope if the ex doesn't rebound because it means that they would rather be single and alone than to be with you. Well that's another way of looking at it. Link to comment
Adge Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Not sure whether I'm rebounding at the moment. Having been very upset due to splitting up with my ex about 2 months ago (couldn't eat, sleep, work etc.) I met this lovely 22 year old girl, 13 years my junior (I'm 35). We hit it off really well but we (well more her) decided to stop because she felt it would be difficult to tell her parents that she is seeing a 35 year old and feels a bit weird about it. Plus she goes travelling in a week for four months. After a week of being with her I devloped feelings (not really love I don't think) as she is utterly gorgeous. Now I am feeling a bit down because we decided to stop things last night (we didn't actually have sex, just played around and when it got to the crunch she got nervous. I didn't push it though at all). I actually feel like a girl LOL. Normally I am the one in control of my emotions and quite guarded. BLAH BLAH BLAH. Why is this rubbishy emotional stuff happening to me!!?? - I do find it quite funny really. You've gotta laugh sometimes at what life throws at you!! AAARRGGGGGHHHH! Maybe it is a rebound. Who knows!? Link to comment
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