Should I let him know how I feel?

[amyb]

I broke up with someone about 5 months ago. I don't want to write the whole story about my relationship with this guy (I've aready written it in another thread) but here's a short summary: We met a few years ago in Europe while I was on vacation. After I left we remained friends for 6 years. We bacame even closer over the years. This past summer, I went back to his country for a few months and we got back together. He implied that he would like me to stay but at the time I wasn't ready to make that commitment (also, pressure from my family about being so far away). He told me he had feelings for me but he didnt want to pressure me because he knew it was a difficult situation.

(I should also mention that the country he lives in is where my family is originally from, I lived there for a few years as a child and I speak the language fluently, and have relatives there, so it's not like I would be going to a country that was completely foreign to me).

 

Anyway, it's been about 5-6 months now and I can't get over him. I miss him so much, I think about him all the time and I cry every day knowing that I blew my second chance with him. I think this is the only guy that I have ever really loved. I thought I had been in love with other guys before him, but after meeting him I have realized I never felt this way before.

 

A few days after I left him I wrote him an email saying I was sorry for disappointing him and not trying to make things work. He said he wasnt disappointed in me, he was glad we were able to spend time together and that we should both accept the fact that we cant be together because of the distance and need to move on.

I've been trying to move on but I can't. I'm not sure if he is seeing anyone right now and I am afraid to ask him because I don't know if I can handle it if he is. We have decided to be friends and we chat sometimes.

 

I want to write him and tell him how much I miss him and that I want us to be together. But I don't want to make him feel bad or put him in a difficult position especially if he is seeing someone. I don't think it is fair for me to do that to him. But I feel the need to let him know how I feel.

What should I do?

[ratfreak]

Is there a possibility you will be close soon?

Long distance relationships rarely work so unless you're sure you can be together in the same city, I woudn't write.

[DN]

If you are prepared to move should a serious relationship start - and only if - then you should tell him how you feel.

 

I know it can be scary to move away from friends and family - been there, done that.

[penelope13]

You would be the one who has to do the moving?