My Mother Makes Me Crazy

[jdpreacher]

My first ex was never a good mother to my kids, from the time they were babies until present day I've taken care of, seen to the needs of and been there for my kids. They have lived with me since the divorce and in October of 2000 my ex brought them back to me after her weekend in the trunk section of an old station wagon with the spare tire between my sons legs, they were covered in dust and filth and had she been rear-ended, they would have both been killed.

 

I told her at that time she was not to bring the kids back to me like that ever again, never was she to put the children in a jackpot like that. She decided then that she wouldn't pick them up for visitation again and hasn't.

 

She also is over $12,000K behind in child support and won't work in order to pay or get caught up although she has been sending "something" every week since January of this year.

 

My mother has been on her side since day one and actually encouraged her to divorce me and was angry when I moved out and moved on. I don't understand why my mother thinks my ex is such a wonderful mother to my kids, she doesn't call them, she rarely sends them letters or cards for birthdays, my daughter had her birthday in February and never received a card or call.

 

My mother blames me for everything that my ex hasn't done, won't do, is incapable of, whatever disability she may have seems to be my fault. I am blamed because my ex doesn't call the kids (I won't let her talk to them) or why the kids don't call her (they don't ask to) and that I won't let them have letters when she sends them (hasn't done so often and when she does I have given them to the kids) and I'm the reason she won't come and see them (kids have weekend activities now that prevent a "normal" schedule for visitation since it's been eight years since her last weekend).

 

Yesterday I got into a heated argument with my mother, she told me she was having knee surgery and I asked if she had a way to the hospital or if she wanted me to come and be with her...I was told simply to leave her the hell alone and we proceeded to argue yet again about my ex. I told her that she need not bother my kids again either, that I was done with this upset in my and my family's life.

 

My wife and I are buying a house and will be moving in the next month so I'm going to have our phone number changed and I will not forward the mail and I'm sure not giving the information to my mother.

 

Sorry for the long post, needed to vent...

 

Blessed Be,

Preacher

[top bloke]

What reason does your mother have for backing your ex?

[jdpreacher]

Not sure, she blames me for leaving her, taking the kids and moving away, making it impossible to see them even though I took the kids back to Indiana as often as I could so the kids could visit their grandmother.

 

I went out of my way to accommodate people who did nothing but belittle and berate me because the marriage went to hell. This has been going on for almost 12 years...

 

I'm the better part of 40 now, my kids are 16 and 14 and I'm done letting people p*** on my kids and I, and that includes my mother.

 

Blessed Be,

Preacher

[top bloke]

You are a great dad. Ignore your mother because shes got no right to treat you like a little boy..you have grown up and got a new woman now too. Just dont pay attention. I love my mum but if she oversteps her boundaries I let her know. I say be happy man..you are doing so much better since your ex left and done a good job in raising /protecting those children..your a top bloke ..seriously..

[Dating Coach]

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Either your mother and your ex are really messed up in the head and you should distance yourself from both, or your story is lacking a lot of truth.