Need support because I've given up my group of friends

[Karibo]

Hiya,

 

So I realised my main group of friends aren't really friends at all (except one of them who has stuck by me). Basically one of them, who seemed to think she was the leader was a very manipulative (acted all sweet and innocent) and was very controlling. Basically she had a problem with things that other people did but expected herself to be able to do those things (like expecting her boyfriend to be there but being very angry when anyone else brought theirs along, always butting in and taking over other people's plans, not showing up to other's people because she hadn't planned it herself).

 

She always has to be centre of attention and through telling her all this stuff it was my way of leaving them behind because I knew she would make them side with her and they would because they are frightened to go against her and have all this carp that i'm going through.

 

It's hard though. I feel a little lonely even though I do have other friends, real friends. She has turned it all around on me and tries to tell everyone how nasty I was to her just for telling the truth (and i didn't do it in a harsh or spiteful way).

 

It feels weird not having them there as a sort of safety blanket.

 

Has anyone else on here gne through anything similar? I just feel like I need other's support to help me through this.

 

Thanks

[Celestialagape54]

Hello Karibo,

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I know exactly what you mean, I went through a similar experience when I was in middle school and into high school. My best friend in middle school and leading into high school was excatly like the girl you described. She ditched me because I wasn't good enough for her group. However, in a weird way things worked out for the best because I met my best friend now, I have known her for 12 years and she is the most amazing person. Just remember these people are not a reflection of you. If anything you are better off. Just keep your chin up and I am sure that things will get better soon. If you ever need to talk I am always here...

[top bloke]

the thing to remember is that they were never your friends. What is that saying? With friends like that who needs enemies. Write em off like a car which is an unrepairable write off...theres no point thinking about it anymore.. Have peace and friends will come.